Two people in Aviation with Kids. Does it work?

[capt. megadeth]

Mega, how long you been dating your BF? When is the wedding, if any?

Dated 2 years. Living together 5 years. Engaged 4 years. Together 6 years. The wedding was supposed to be in 05 but I got called to go to class at UPS so we cancelled it. It's on indefinite hold due to reasons that are kind of out of our control . (I'd rather not post it on here but it's not relationship issues or anything like that).

 

[capt. megadeth]

uh, sweet cakes, you aren't the only one worried about that. He is too...

But of course, who would have thought that....

Sugarplum, of course he is. We don't obsess over it but we are realists.

 

[satpak77]

1.HUH?!?!?
NO CLUE as to what you are getting at here.
People change yet take responsibility for your actions and don't blame the SOB for being an a$$?????? Who are you supposed to blame? Yourself? People change but it's all your fault that you didn't see it coming? No f***ing clue as to what in the world you are getting at here. All I see this is all the more reason to have a backup plan of your own so you don't have to stay with someone if they become that way. NEXT!!!!

2. I don't know what a female pilot is supposed to do. I never really worried about FAs as competition. I do know a few that slept with pilots and got themselves pregnant on purpose. Don't feel sorry for them or the dumba$$ that knocked them up.

3. That's right. Cheating males and females. Have you ever been to Clark? Where do you fly, Pleasantville?

4. I don't remember a lot of rumors about nurses and infidelity but women aren't angels either.

Observations

1) You are off radar coverage on whatever you two are talking about, so I will move on....

2) Sleeping around has nothing to do with "job title" but with Biology. Why, I have known FAs, teachers, female pilots, nurses, etc to sleep around. All females in these categories. It is not a "horny FA thing".

3) See 2

4) See 2, women are NOT angels. I have had more offers and "chances" SINCE I started wearing a wedding ring than ANYTIME before, all added up. I take my kids and my dear wife to her friends house, who pinches their cheeks, etc, and I later get a "surprise call" on my cell from her, letting me know to "give her a call" to "let her know how I am doing" (info easily obtained from my wife, her "friend") and that next time I drive to "ABC city", to "let her know, she would like to go with me to pick some things up"

HMMMMMM

4a) Women, biological creatures, with sexual needs, are just as bad if not worse than men. TRUST ME on this.

 

[satpak77]

Dated 2 years. Living together 5 years. Engaged 4 years. Together 6 years. The wedding was supposed to be in 05 but I got called to go to class at UPS so we cancelled it. It's on indefinite hold due to reasons that are kind of out of our control . (I'd rather not post it on here but it's not relationship issues or anything like that).

Or, in other words, whether or not you get married to this guy is out of your control.

I suppose since 2005, there has been NO chance to marry this guy? (It was planned for 2005...).

We are not talking a wedding in Nevis. Go to the court, get it done. You love him right? 6 years? How long is "enough?" etc etc

stop lying to yourself and to him

 

[capt. megadeth]

2) Sleeping around has nothing to do with "job title" but with Biology. Why, I have known FAs, teachers, female pilots, nurses, etc to sleep around. All females in these categories. It is not a "horny FA thing".

4a) Women, biological creatures, with sexual needs, are just as bad if not worse than men. TRUST ME on this.

2. Thanks for pointing out the obvious.

4a. Well, my honey and I have debates on this too. He thinks women are worse, I think men are worse. Let's agree that there are men and women that cheat. I would think you would agree with me that it's wrong.

 

[satpak77]

can't edit on FI anymore?

Dated 2 years. Living together 5 years. Engaged 4 years. Together 6 years. The wedding was supposed to be in 05 but I got called to go to class at UPS so we cancelled it. It's on indefinite hold due to reasons that are kind of out of our control . (I'd rather not post it on here but it's not relationship issues or anything like that).

i guess we can't edit anymore.

Lets rephrase the above, but repackaged in "reality format" (you of your own admission are a realist)

1. Indefinite Hold? That is nice talk to help you sleep at night. The wedding is CANCELLED.
2. Sadly, for unknown reasons, you had no input or influence on your own wedding.
3. Nobody would have concluded "relationship issues" but since you said it first, I think it is. Two people do not get engaged, set a wedding, then cancel it, and not have "relationship issues" as a portion of the cancellation package.
4. Going to class at UPS, a major achievement (congrats, now lets maybe get some of your aviation success to bleed into your personal life), is reason to get married, to celebrate, "I made it", etc. "No more eating Ramen soup, living on CFI pay" etc. Getting hired at UPS is the antithesis of a reason to CANCEL a wedding. Re-set the date, ok. CANCEL IT? By the way, since you stated that you cancelled it, own up to it, and stop using "indefinite hold." That is wishy-washy talk, more delusions that are not helping you two.

 

[satpak77]

2. Thanks for pointing out the obvious.

4a. Well, my honey and I have debates on this too. He thinks women are worse, I think men are worse. Let's agree that there are men and women that cheat. I would think you would agree with me that it's wrong.

It is wrong, yes. The attractant is the risk. Sex is sex. Close your eyes with your husband, and he can be Brad Pitt (try it). Sex is a mechanical process.

However, put risk, emotion, playfulness, etc, into the picture and you have the makings of affairs, cheating, etc.

I have never known a women (or man) who cheated who just bumped into a person on the bus, boom, lets have sex, ok we are done, hey see ya. Never

I have seen in every case a systematic cultivation of risk, attraction, danger, etc, resulting in the main event.

Women cheat out of emotion and to fill a void, physical and or emotional. To feel wanted, to feel protected. I have never met any confident, non-lonely, self-fulfilled women, who were out cheating. Not one. Women cheat because they are looking for something. They also cheat to "get back" at someone.

Men cheat to get laid, and thats about it.

(99% of the time....)

 

[FlyUnited]

"pesky, dirty FA's"....? Are you serious??????? All the good info comes from the f/a's.

 

[FlyUnited]

Satpak has it right.

 

[capt. megadeth]

Please mind your own business. Thank you.

i guess we can't edit anymore.

Lets rephrase the above, but repackaged in "reality format" (you of your own admission are a realist)

1. Indefinite Hold? That is nice talk to help you sleep at night. The wedding is CANCELLED.
2. Sadly, for unknown reasons, you had no input or influence on your own wedding.
3. Nobody would have concluded "relationship issues" but since you said it first, I think it is. Two people do not get engaged, set a wedding, then cancel it, and not have "relationship issues" as a portion of the cancellation package.
4. Going to class at UPS, a major achievement (congrats, now lets maybe get some of your aviation success to bleed into your personal life), is reason to get married, to celebrate, "I made it", etc. "No more eating Ramen soup, living on CFI pay" etc. Getting hired at UPS is the antithesis of a reason to CANCEL a wedding. Re-set the date, ok. CANCEL IT? By the way, since you stated that you cancelled it, own up to it, and stop using "indefinite hold." That is wishy-washy talk, more delusions that are not helping you two.

 

[FlyUnited]

Satpak has it right.

It was getting late, I should have explained myself. He got it right on that ONE tiny little point. Besides that, nada.

 

[Rez O. Lewshun]

1.HUH?!?!?
NO CLUE as to what you are getting at here.
People change yet take responsibility for your actions and don't blame the SOB for being an a$$?????? Who are you supposed to blame? Yourself? People change but it's all your fault that you didn't see it coming? No f***ing clue as to what in the world you are getting at here. All I see this is all the more reason to have a backup plan of your own so you don't have to stay with someone if they become that way. NEXT!!!!

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Its seems from the limited perspective of the moniker message boards, you want the benefits of a long term stable relationship with a ready to go, easily accessable escape plan. In general, many might hesitate to commit if the partner was holding hands on one side with the other hand on the eject lever...

 

[capt. megadeth]

Sure.....whatever your two (you and satpak) twisted little minds want to think. I really don't give a $hit what you two think. I am done with this thread.

Its seems from the limited perspective of the moniker message boards, you want the benefits of a long term stable relationship with a ready to go, easily accessable escape plan. In general, many might hesitate to commit if the partner was holding hands on one side with the other hand on the eject lever...

 

[John Pennekamp]

Hey Megadeath, just ignore these chauvinist pigs. My wife makes an excellent point when she says NO MAN could handle it if they woke up and found they had traded places with their pregnant, career minded wife. And the constant whining would be hysterical.

They have no idea what they're talking about. Just ignore them and quit letting them rile you up. Good luck.

 

[Rez O. Lewshun]

]Hey Megadeath, just ignore these chauvinist pigs. My wife makes an excellent point when she says NO MAN could handle it if they woke up and found they had traded places with their pregnant, career minded wife. And the constant whining would be hysterical.

That's right. There are plenty of things that a woman can do better than me... We are not equal. We need each other to make the best of life. Can I do what a woman does? Sure and so can they... but its easier when we work together and use each others strengths.... that's chauvinists?

They have no idea what they're talking about. Just ignore them and quit letting them rile you up. Good luck.

All good on the home front....

 

[capt. megadeth]

Hey Megadeath, just ignore these chauvinist pigs. My wife makes an excellent point when she says NO MAN could handle it if they woke up and found they had traded places with their pregnant, career minded wife. And the constant whining would be hysterical.

They have no idea what they're talking about. Just ignore them and quit letting them rile you up. Good luck.

LOL!

Thanks!

 

[Flyer1015]

Wait a minute Megadeth, from the SWA thread, you said you weren't the wedding type and that a wedding wasn't necessary to raise kids, and all that stuff.

Now you're saying here you were planning to get married in 2005, but held it off due to being hired at UPS?

That does paint an entirely new picture than the one you initially provided me...

 

[John Pennekamp]

Can I do what a woman does? Sure and so can they... but its easier when we work together and use each others strengths.... that's chauvinists?

What's chauvinist is that you insist you can do what they do. You can't and you'll never have to. This is why she told you to "shut your pie hole". If you're male, you have no idea how much pressure the modern woman faces having to decide between career and family, especially in aviation. As many have pointed out here, in this business, you can't just take a few years off, then go back like most careers. Take a few moments and imagine yourself in her situation before you lecture. What would YOU do?

From the moment a woman makes it known she's pregnant, she's expected to take her career off the table and put her family first. Everyone she encounters throughout her pregnancy will ask her if she's going to quit or how she's going to do it. Our society expects women to be equals professionally, but in the background they're still expected to be June Cleaver. That's not fair.

 

[John Pennekamp]

LOL!

Thanks!

Yeah, I thought that visual would cheer you up. I'd like to see them try. Good luck.

 

[capt. megadeth]

Wait a minute Megadeth, from the SWA thread, you said you weren't the wedding type and that a wedding wasn't necessary to raise kids, and all that stuff.

Now you're saying here you were planning to get married in 2005, but held it off due to being hired at UPS?

That does paint an entirely new picture than the one you initially provided me...

I'm not really the wedding type and I don't think a wedding is necessary to raise kids but I do want to marry my honey cuz I love him with all my heart and soul and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

However, we have other things going on right now that I don't care to share on the board. We will get married after a certain "situation" is taken care of but I am in no hurry.