Negativity. What an interesting concept.
In spite of what you are taking from this thread as negativity, xlr, and in spite of what Adam has said, there is a hard, evolving reality happening right now in aviation. Let's take a look, shall we?
A great number of pilots have worked long and hard to get ahead in this business. For most, the pay has been small, despite the long hours as an "independent contractor" (that way they don't have to pay you benefits or unemployment) flight instructor, freight dog, charter crew, or air tour pilot. A great many pilots here started with the dream of flying the Big Iron, for appropriately big money, following the gospel of Kit Darby, a well known promoter of aviation dreams-at-a-price.
Supposedly, hordes of pilots would be retiring, leaving thousands of empty seats to be filled by eager newcomers, and those jobs wouldn't go away, since nothing would quench the public's desire to fly, right? As you know, all of that has changed. Along with retiring pilots, there have been retiring aircraft and retiring routes. Trips that once required an MD-80 are now being serviced with a "regional jet", with a crew that makes far less than their predecessors.
Add in September 11th, 2001 to this mix, and stir in fear and regulatory paranoia. Make the public wait for an extended period of time for each flight, and subject them to nonsensical searches of US Senators and grandmothers.
As a result of all this, you have a shrinkage of the best paying, most prestigious jobs in commercial aviation. Instead of a simple freeze in hiring, you have a decrease of the sought after positions, placing many highly qualified people on the street. This means that the commuter pilot does not move up to the "major" airline job for which he has waited for many years. The flight instructor is finding it extrememly difficult to be hired by a regional, and the new flight instructor has trouble finding work at a flight school.
What this respresents to guys like you, xlr and Adam, is that this is a changing industry that will take longer to produce a satisfactory career for you than many of the academy and flight school/college operators would have you believe. Some may actually produce a legitimate job interview at a "regional" airline for you. Then what? Are you ready for what comes next? A lot of people in this thread are trying to clue you in to the reality, as it stands right now and for the near term. If you judge the attitudes as merely "arrogant" or "negative", then you haven't dug deeply enough into this industry before agreeing to part with the exorbitant fee of $80K for the privilege of joining us in the pool party.
If you love to fly, I mean really LOVE to fly, than your satisfaction will come far quicker than if you want Big Pay. For a number of pilots, this is just a job, and the pay is the ONLY consideration. New pilots with that midset will be horribly disappointed for some time to come.
So, my young friends, you can look at this and call it negative. That is your perogative. The reality of today's market for pilots is that it is an employer's market, and every job has competition that includes experienced people. That's reality.
Another reality is that bad things can hapen in the normal course of events. It's great that you have a connection through your friend to his father, but lots of companies go out of business every year. Corporate departments close. Stuff happens. Don't think for a moment that one good connection will give you a career.
While you are being overcharged, you will enjoy your training, I think. Heck, you might have incredible good fortune, too. If we have you scared a little, that might be a good thing. Now you will think more about what you are doing with your life, and put more focus into your career. You will take less for granted. Now, your eyes are just a little more open than they were before.
That's a positive, don't you think?