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[xdrvr]

Out of curiousity what does your spouse do for a living? Perhaps this is the perverbial straw that broke the camels back... whatever else is going on and now the home life is not stable.. schedule wise Good luck to you!

 

[Seadogrun]

Any way you cut it, it suck for the spouse at home to be there alone. I think it comforts my wife knowing that I don't like be away any more that she likes for me to be gone.

Let him know it sucks for you too, but it will get better.

Congrats on the upgrade.

 

[CKJET]

Congrats on the left seat...tell him to clean up after himself. My wife is yelling that to me right now.

 

[Grey Ghost]

what do these wives think it is going to be like when they marry a pilot?????? Tell her to pick up a hobby to pass the time!!!

 

[deadstick]

Come to an understanding.

FWIW, my wife knew this is what I wanted to do. Thinks really suck right now, but we look at this as an investment in our future. When I am home, I most certainly do house work. It has to be a team effort. A web cam can really help the relationship, too. And I don't mean for any of that funny stuff, either . If you are sitting reserve on a weekend (and home is not the base), then non-rev is butt up there and get a room for the weekend. Hopefully you're in a nice city.

It's hard now, and you won't be on reserve indefinitely.

 

[§kyye Candy]

Hi Yaya -

Still confused a little over here - you said you're not doing "everything" when you get home, but you also said hub is trying - can I take it to mean then that your house isn't up to standards when you arrive home? Or is it more that he's complaining about you not having the time/inclination (whichever) to clean more often?

 

[Beetle007]

At some point free time is worth more than money. I have never had a maid, but I understand the reasons for one. Time is worth more than anything, and some people can spend it more productively than cleaning.

Usually a pilot doesn't fall into this category (because you normally can't work from home). But, I know a lot of pilots that have side businesses. They can be more productive working than cleaning. And, if you can afford to hire a maid, I would rather spend quality time with my wife than cleaning on my days off.

 

[belchfire]

Drinking beer and watching Star Trek reruns is a more valuble use of my time than cleaning...hell, I need a maid!

Booohahahahahahaha!

 

[John Pennekamp]

One thing I don't understand is WHY THE F*** does ANYONE need a maid?

Your hubby should clean up if he is home......if you are home and the house needs cleanup....you should clean it up.

Anyone that needs a maid is living in too big of a house.

I will never understand the maid thing. What a collossal waste of cash!!!!!!!!!! Why can't people clean up after themselves? I just don't get it.

FWIW, we have a cleaning service. I'm a pilot and my wife's an FA. We have 4 kids. The last thing we want to do on our precious off days is clean house. $75 every two weeks is a small price to pay!

 

[pilotyip]

So what, you were expecting a never-ending honeymoon? If you committed to the marriage you will have conflicts, issues, and distractions from the big picture. The big picture is you made a commitment and you are to stick to it, no infidelity, no drugs, and financial responsibility are your obligations to the foundation of that commitment. This only comes from an airline career guy who had been married to my first and only wife for 42 years.

 

[capt. megadeth]

FWIW, we have a cleaning service. I'm a pilot and my wife's an FA. We have 4 kids. The last thing we want to do on our precious off days is clean house. $75 every two weeks is a small price to pay!

Well, with the two of you working and 4 kids, I can understand but $75 EVERY OTHER WEEK????? Dude, I am waaaay too cheap for that. Seriously, I am cheap (frugal is more like it but saying I'm cheap sounds funnier to me).

By the way, what do you do for scheduling? Do you do opposite schedules? Drop trips?

 

[John Pennekamp]

Well, with the two of you working and 4 kids, I can understand but $75 EVERY OTHER WEEK????? Dude, I am waaaay too cheap for that. Seriously, I am cheap (frugal is more like it but saying I'm cheap sounds funnier to me).

By the way, what do you do for scheduling? Do you do opposite schedules? Drop trips?

Sometimes we work opposite schedules, sometimes the grandparents help us out. Luckily, they live nearby.

 

[pilotyip]

HAIL! TO THE VICTORS, VALIANT! HAIL TO THE CONQU'RING HEROES! HAIL! HAIL! TO MICHIGAN, THE CHAMPIONS OF THE WEST!!! They are even a joke in football this year to match thier basketball power, watch MSU finish them off this year in both sports, not to mention the women B'ball also

 

[John Pennekamp]

HAIL! TO THE VICTORS, VALIANT! HAIL TO THE CONQU'RING HEROES! HAIL! HAIL! TO MICHIGAN, THE CHAMPIONS OF THE WEST!!! They are even a joke in football this year to match thier basketball power, watch MSU finish them off this year in both sports, not to mention the women B'ball also

Umm, yeah, anyhow, back to aviation...

 

[FlyUnited]

Well, with the two of you working and 4 kids, I can understand but $75 EVERY OTHER WEEK????? Dude, I am waaaay too cheap for that. Seriously, I am cheap (frugal is more like it but saying I'm cheap sounds funnier to me).

By the way, what do you do for scheduling? Do you do opposite schedules? Drop trips?

Mega, just wait until that little bundle comes along. Then you may rethink spending your down time cleaning up. I wish I could find a cleaning service for $75. Mine is $115 a week. :bawling: Still beats doing it myself though! :beer:

 

[atpcliff]

Hi!

I am the flying guy, normally 10-25 days on, and then a block of days off. My CEO has a great job and makes more than I do.

She likes the house very picked up, and it is relatively big (we have 2 grade school kids who do help around the house).

When I'm home, I basically take over the house, so she can just work (unless I'm doing some "manly" job like putting in flooring-then she does the house so I can concentrate on that job).

We have a cleaning service in once every two weeks at $100/pop.

My CEO is glad I went to the bigger plane here and now have 13 days off/month.

If you are having domestic issues-All you can do is Try. Don't give up.

God Bless

cliff
ABQ

 

[capt. megadeth]

Mega, just wait until that little bundle comes along. Then you may rethink spending your down time cleaning up. I wish I could find a cleaning service for $75. Mine is $115 a week. :bawling: Still beats doing it myself though! :beer:

I dunno girl....I just wasn't raised to have a cleaning lady....I'd be cleaning up for the cleaning lady!

 

[Rez O. Lewshun]

We live in a society that outsources. Just like our airlines, as families, we outsource.

Turn on the TV and watch commercials, which sell time. Fast prep foods, products that (perceive) to make jobs completed faster.. Like the ol' Boston Market Commercial. The woman states "how do I keep my kitchen so clean?...... I use Boston Market!!"

It is even tempting for stay at home moms and Dual Income No Kids (DINKS) to get wrapped up in the outsourcing... we are a product of our culture...

We even outsource our parenting.

 

[FlyUnited]

I'm going to guess that you have another article that states that women are better suited to clean the house too. Does your wife do that too? I spend our money any way I choose and I have no intention of ever cleaning my house. Why should I? Its actually worse now, when my kids were small I kept a livein housekeeper because they were so messy ( guess what? She also cooked for us) you guessed it, I can't cook either. We order in every night now or he grills.....but my kitchen looks amazing from lack of use.

Go ahead Rez, tell me how my children are going to be negatively affected for life. Poor things never saw their mother clean the toilet or cook a meal, they are doomed.

 

[Hagar17]

Well, with the two of you working and 4 kids, I can understand but $75 EVERY OTHER WEEK????? Dude, I am waaaay too cheap for that. Seriously, I am cheap (frugal is more like it but saying I'm cheap sounds funnier to me).

By the way, what do you do for scheduling? Do you do opposite schedules? Drop trips?

$37.50 a week to clean the whole house? Sh!t, dogg, I'm IN!! YGBSM!

Spend that time you would be cleaning and take the kids on the boat. Take the kids to school and take the wife to tunatown. Nice.....imp: