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[Oh-ryan]

You make over 80K a year and you 're telling me you can't afford a maid? You better take the bonus and stay in.

Actually tough guy... I am no longer in, I make about 110K a year (flying), but I still can not justify spending money on a maid. I prefer having my wife stay home and raise our kids (as does she) and use the "maid money" to take the kids on vacation, save for college and maybe enjoy a dinner out/week. Can you believe that? Oh yeah, I actually do some laundry, vacuum and other things around the house to help out.

Go look down your nose at someone else jerk off.

 

[capt. megadeth]

One thing I don't understand is WHY THE F*** does ANYONE need a maid?

Your hubby should clean up if he is home......if you are home and the house needs cleanup....you should clean it up.

Anyone that needs a maid is living in too big of a house.

I will never understand the maid thing. What a collossal waste of cash!!!!!!!!!! Why can't people clean up after themselves? I just don't get it.

 

[JediNein]

Because sometimes they can't. And sometimes their time is too valuable.

We don't know if the significant other is disabled, which could be a simple as needing a PBE to do the vacuuming - otherwise they sneeze their heads off.

We don't know if the significant other is a busy CEO and wants to come home to a cooked meal every day and feels vacuuming is beneath him.

Some guys feel very threatened when their wife appears to be more successful than themselves. Wifey upgrades and becomes 'de man' in charge and hubby is still assistant peon. Role reversals can be quite challenging.

I was watching the Mesa training video where the guy has to reschedule his wife's chemo appointment. That's just wrong. Are there events going on like that at home, or are they more mundane things like missed dinners, dates, not being able to be there for the contractors, and so on?

Good luck!

 

[Oh-ryan]

One thing I don't understand is WHY THE F*** does ANYONE need a maid?

Your hubby should clean up if he is home......if you are home and the house needs cleanup....you should clean it up.

Anyone that needs a maid is living in too big of a house.

I will never understand the maid thing. What a collossal waste of cash!!!!!!!!!! Why can't people clean up after themselves? I just don't get it.

I 95% agree with you there Sugar Britches. The 5% exception being if I were a ga-zillionaire, maybe then I would hire a maid. Preferably one of them French maids... ooh yeah... that's the stuff!

Now, for the average Joe Schmoe couple that is trying to find ways to keep their marriage together and feels that hiring a maid would help, then they might as well start working on the divorce papers cause they got much bigger problems.

 

[Galaxy]

WOW- This thread got hijacked!

To the original poster- I feel for you, but you should have planned for the worse and hoped for the best. The fact you are on reserve was a given. You must have known that going from a senior FO holding day trip lines going to the left seat was going to suck BIGTIME. However, congrats on your upgrade and hiring a housekeeper is cheaper than a divorce. Just let your hubby know that times like this will soon pass.

Sit him down and bring out the issues to the table and get them resolved or they will haunt you for a long long time.

 

[xdrvr]

Out of curiousity what does your spouse do for a living? Perhaps this is the perverbial straw that broke the camels back... whatever else is going on and now the home life is not stable.. schedule wise Good luck to you!

 

[Seadogrun]

Any way you cut it, it suck for the spouse at home to be there alone. I think it comforts my wife knowing that I don't like be away any more that she likes for me to be gone.

Let him know it sucks for you too, but it will get better.

Congrats on the upgrade.

 

[CKJET]

Congrats on the left seat...tell him to clean up after himself. My wife is yelling that to me right now.

 

[Grey Ghost]

what do these wives think it is going to be like when they marry a pilot?????? Tell her to pick up a hobby to pass the time!!!

 

[deadstick]

Come to an understanding.

FWIW, my wife knew this is what I wanted to do. Thinks really suck right now, but we look at this as an investment in our future. When I am home, I most certainly do house work. It has to be a team effort. A web cam can really help the relationship, too. And I don't mean for any of that funny stuff, either . If you are sitting reserve on a weekend (and home is not the base), then non-rev is butt up there and get a room for the weekend. Hopefully you're in a nice city.

It's hard now, and you won't be on reserve indefinitely.

 

[§kyye Candy]

Hi Yaya -

Still confused a little over here - you said you're not doing "everything" when you get home, but you also said hub is trying - can I take it to mean then that your house isn't up to standards when you arrive home? Or is it more that he's complaining about you not having the time/inclination (whichever) to clean more often?

 

[Beetle007]

At some point free time is worth more than money. I have never had a maid, but I understand the reasons for one. Time is worth more than anything, and some people can spend it more productively than cleaning.

Usually a pilot doesn't fall into this category (because you normally can't work from home). But, I know a lot of pilots that have side businesses. They can be more productive working than cleaning. And, if you can afford to hire a maid, I would rather spend quality time with my wife than cleaning on my days off.

 

[belchfire]

Drinking beer and watching Star Trek reruns is a more valuble use of my time than cleaning...hell, I need a maid!

Booohahahahahahaha!

 

[John Pennekamp]

One thing I don't understand is WHY THE F*** does ANYONE need a maid?

Your hubby should clean up if he is home......if you are home and the house needs cleanup....you should clean it up.

Anyone that needs a maid is living in too big of a house.

I will never understand the maid thing. What a collossal waste of cash!!!!!!!!!! Why can't people clean up after themselves? I just don't get it.

FWIW, we have a cleaning service. I'm a pilot and my wife's an FA. We have 4 kids. The last thing we want to do on our precious off days is clean house. $75 every two weeks is a small price to pay!

 

[pilotyip]

So what, you were expecting a never-ending honeymoon? If you committed to the marriage you will have conflicts, issues, and distractions from the big picture. The big picture is you made a commitment and you are to stick to it, no infidelity, no drugs, and financial responsibility are your obligations to the foundation of that commitment. This only comes from an airline career guy who had been married to my first and only wife for 42 years.