A lot of folks feel this way not because they're jerks but often because things are so hectic at home sometimes we just need a breather. As an FO I once a captain was pretty insistent he buy me a beer. I ended up being a captive audience for opinions and personal problems. I don't force the issue now. If it's not clear beforehand that we're going to meet I offer once after checkin and then let it go.Sorry, but I've never seen the appeal of hanging out with the people I've just been locked in an aluminum tube with for 8 hours. If that's considered mandatory at SWA, just one more reason I'm glad to get out.