pianoman said:
Be with the program, speak up if you see something wrong, but don't be a pain in the a@@ that has to question every little decision the Cpt. makes if it ain't breaking a rule or going to kill you. In return, he'll probably let you fly the plane how you want as long as you aren't going to kill anyone. I would much rather fly with someone with a good attitude who is a little newer and makes a few small mistakes than a bitter, know-it-all pain in the ass.
And just be quiet sometimes. Shhh.
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"There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it." - Dale Carnegie
I agree with being able to speak up about irregular/unsafe things. However, even if nothing is "wrong," the Captain's actions may be irregular and/or unfamiliar to the FO.
As a type rated FO who swaps legs (and seats) I am in a very priviledged position. Close to 2 years ago, when I first started flying jets, I asked a lot of questions to the senior pilots I flew with. Some pilots may misconstrue this genuine curiosity and yearn for new knowledge as "questioning my experience and judgement." Sometimes that sort of second guessing the more experienced pilot/captain does occur, but in my case, and possibly in other's, the FO simply asked "Why are you doing that, in that particular way?" simply because he/she wanted to better understand the captain's decision etc.
Sometimes there are better ways of doings things, or handy gouges for quick and accurate calculations, or maybe it's the most ideal technique for using the radar in the terminal area.
I think being Johnny-On-The-Spot as a SIC/FO shows you are actually interested in what you do and that the details (pre-flight preperation, paperwork et al) of flying are just as important to you as making smooth landings. I try to approach the job with a 'can-do' attitude, while at the same time not being the annoying "I'll do anything for you and I'll kiss your ass" FO.
Just remember safety is #1, be prepared and try to do things before the captain/pic asks them to be done. Just don't do it without advising him/her first. Communication is key to getting along in the cockpit, and I believe that if the PIC/SIC tell each other what it is they're doing, things will flow smoothly.
As for being a no-it-all, there's nothing wrong with being well versed in a particular subject, but there is no need to try and pound home a point just to make yourself feel important. So you went to ERAU, does the other guy really want to know or care that "at ERAU they taught us to do it this way cause blah blah blah, and the part number of that rivet is blah blah blah, oh and those types of clouds are this and that and BLAH BLAH BLAH, etc etc etc"
Don't push your knowledge onto others, because as Dale Carnegie wrote,
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
And don't overly criticize others with your opinion.
"Criticism of others is futile and if you indulge in it often you should be warned that it can be fatal to your career." -
Dale Carnegie