Divorce

[capt. megadeth]

I think alimony is bull$hit. I understand child support but not alimony. Why does one have to pay for someone else when they are no longer together? What a load of crap.

Dude, be happy alimony is not part of it and get it in writing.

 

[dhc8fo]

I think alimony is bull$hit. I understand child support but not alimony. Why does one have to pay for someone else when they are no longer together? What a load of crap.

Dude, be happy alimony is not part of it and get it in writing.

Well, I am not divorced (yet...:laugh: ) but I don't think alimony is BS. If I DID divorce, my wife would probably get majority custody of the kids and I would want her to raise them rather than have to work and have daycare raise them. B1tch or not, it is almost always better for mom to take care of the kids. You have to put what you think about her out of the equation in that respect. Also, not speaking for everyone, of course, but most women ride out the crappy lifestyle while we are getting our start in flying and are making crap wages. Hell, they probably supporting most of us (still).

 

[capt. megadeth]

Well, I am not divorced (yet...:laugh: ) but I don't think alimony is BS. If I DID divorce, my wife would probably get majority custody of the kids and I would want her to raise them rather than have to work and have daycare raise them. B1tch or not, it is almost always better for mom to take care of the kids. You have to put what you think about her out of the equation in that respect. Also, not speaking for everyone, of course, but most women ride out the crappy lifestyle while we are getting our start in flying and are making crap wages. Hell, they probably supporting most of us (still).

I understand alimony with little kids but once they are in school, FREE RIDE should be over. None of this alimony for 10 years crap. She (or he in some cases) can work during school hours.

 

[FlyUnited]

Unless she is married to Rez....then NO WORK for her. LOL

Seriously, if a man wants his wife to stay home and not work for 15 years and then divorces her, he better expect to pay a lot in alimony because she is no longer marketable in the workforce. My neighbor is paying his ex $3500 a month in alimony and their kids are GROWN (and he's paying it for life unless she were to remarry or moves in with someone.). The reason: she has an illness, not so serious either, and during their 20 year marriage she didn't work, therefore so she has no skills to sustain her lifestyle.

Child support and alimony are quite different.

 

[PurpleInMEM]

Unless she is married to Rez....then NO WORK for her. LOL

Seriously, if a man wants his wife to stay home and not work for 15 years and then divorces her, he better expect to pay a lot in alimony because she is no longer marketable in the workforce. My neighbor is paying his ex $3500 a month in alimony and their kids are GROWN (and he's paying it for life unless she were to remarry or moves in with someone.). The reason: she has an illness, not so serious either, and during their 20 year marriage she didn't work, therefore so she has no skills to sustain her lifestyle.

Child support and alimony are quite different.

Jesus! Sounds like this poor bastard would be better off with a bullet. I'll leave you to decide where he should put it.

How can anyone sustain that for life? At least mine goes away in time for me to earn for a couple of years without paying for pu$$y I'm no longer getting.

 

[tathepilot]

I try to focus on an analogy:

One day, I'm sitting there with my wife's and my future laid out on a dry-erase board. I'm sitting there, reading and studying this plan and doing the best to hold up my end, doing what I think is right.

Then, all of the sudden. Things change. Something changes. It's as if a big eraser comes by and wipes clean my future...the dry erase board that once held our future is CLEAN. It's empty. Gone. A clean slate.

Then somebody (God ?) walks over to me and puts a marker in my hand and says: Here's a marker....that board is blank. Write your own future. It's up to you.

There world is yours !! Live strong.

Well said!! My D was a blessing in disguise... I could not be happier with my life right now!!!

 

[capt. megadeth]

Unless she is married to Rez....then NO WORK for her. LOL

Seriously, if a man wants his wife to stay home and not work for 15 years and then divorces her, he better expect to pay a lot in alimony because she is no longer marketable in the workforce. My neighbor is paying his ex $3500 a month in alimony and their kids are GROWN (and he's paying it for life unless she were to remarry or moves in with someone.). The reason: she has an illness, not so serious either, and during their 20 year marriage she didn't work, therefore so she has no skills to sustain her lifestyle.

Child support and alimony are quite different.

That is f***ed up.

Well, first off, if your husband wants you to stay home, it's your decision too. If you CHOOSE to stay at home, and later get divorced and are no longer marketable in the workforce, you need to get your a$$ marketable. Start by getting a job. Alimony for life? That is f***ed up beyond all belief.

That whole "sustain your lifestyle" $hit is a bunch of crap too. If you get divorced and can't sustain your "lifestyle"....guess what? You need to readjust your lifestyle. Too bad so sad....it's called life. Someone shouldn't have to carry you through the rest of your life after a divorce.

 

[capt. megadeth]

Jesus! Sounds like this poor bastard would be better off with a bullet. I'll leave you to decide where he should put it.

How can anyone sustain that for life? At least mine goes away in time for me to earn for a couple of years without paying for pu$$y I'm no longer getting.

I was thinking the same thing.

At that point you are better off quitting your job and suing her for alimony.
Of course, I'm sure if the money weren't there, she would find another "husband" real quick.

 

[FlyUnited]

That is f***ed up.

Well, first off, if your husband wants you to stay home, it's your decision too. If you CHOOSE to stay at home, and later get divorced and are no longer marketable in the workforce, you need to get your a$$ marketable. Start by getting a job. Alimony for life? That is f***ed up beyond all belief.

That whole "sustain your lifestyle" $hit is a bunch of crap too. If you get divorced and can't sustain your "lifestyle"....guess what? You need to readjust your lifestyle. Too bad so sad....it's called life. Someone shouldn't have to carry you through the rest of your life after a divorce.

I totally agree.....the courts do not agree with us. Long term marriage were a wife hasn't worked..ALIMONY! (about the 'choosing' to stay home...some men actually DEMAND their wives stay home with the kids, those guys DESERVE to pay alimony for life)

 

[capt. megadeth]

some men actually DEMAND their wives stay home with the kids, those guys DESERVE to pay alimony for life)

I see what you are saying and I kind of want to agree BUT it's 2007, not 1907. If you are with a guy that "demands" anything like that and you stay with him and just do as you are told by your man, you have a few screws loose yourself.....know what I mean?