Divorce

[leenick]

I Agree!!

 

[leenick]

Heyas Mega,

I agree. I was in the enviable position of my wife making a fair bit more than my august personage. When she split, I thought long and hard about hitting HER up for alimony, just to see how far I could push the legal system.
But I blew it off because we had come to an equitable agreement for the split. We were only married for two years, so I chalked it up to a bad call on my part.

Then she tried to lawyer up to snake me for a bunch of assets when I had a ton of stuff that I should have been recovering from her...student loans, sold property that I had paid some notes on, etc.

When this, along with the pre-nup, was pointed out to her lawyer, they settled up mighty quick.

Over the course of two years, the whole marriage cost me about 60k, including wedding, ring, and a new car for her. She didn't get a dime from me at all in the divorce, and my legal fees/court costs were only $1500.


I urge anyone considering marrage to get a pre-nup. Considering the odds, it may be the best money you ever spend.

Nu

I AGREE 100%

 

[capt. megadeth]

So long story short we guys are always getting f**** and don't relize it until it's too late.

That's because you all think with the wrong head until it's too late.

 

[say again]

All the more reason not to get married!!

 

[jergar999]

Interesting how the discussion died when that little detail came into the picture, isn't it?

I couldn't agree with you more, but I can't force her to see it. I also couldn't get her to contribute in any way to the household, come home from the bar five nights a week, be faithful and stay disease free, attend counseling or handle any of her responsibilities.

After two agonizing years I can't take any more. I certainly don't feel cavalier about the split or, more importantly, the impact it will have on my children, but at this point it is the lesser of two evils. The only reason I posted here is to seek the advice of people who have gone through this before because I don't want to make any decisions that I will regret later and right now I am simply not 100%.

 

[pgcfii2002]

I love women.

 

[TonkaF16]

I couldn't agree with you more, but I can't force her to see it. I also couldn't get her to contribute in any way to the household, come home from the bar five nights a week, be faithful and stay disease free, attend counseling or handle any of her responsibilities.

After two agonizing years I can't take any more. I certainly don't feel cavalier about the split or, more importantly, the impact it will have on my children, but at this point it is the lesser of two evils. The only reason I posted here is to seek the advice of people who have gone through this before because I don't want to make any decisions that I will regret later and right now I am simply not 100%.

Rip it off like a band-aid, slower = more agony

With this situation, you only need to worry about the kids.

If she likes bars that much, a DNA test may be justified, she does'nt need to know.

Best of luck

 

[flydaddy0499]

Marriage is grand, divorce is $50,000.

I just finalized mine as well. It's a good thing she cheated, I have proof (photo and email evidence, signed affiidavit, etc ) AND she makes a lot more money than I can make as a pilot. Give me my truck and my clothes, joint custody (3 boys) and I'm on my way.

By the way, I lost 55 lbs, dropped from 35% to 10% body fat and started seeing a smokin' hot chick after the big "D". Bye Bye you cold hearted, egotistical, life-sucking b!thc!!!!!

 

[Casper]

Marriage is grand, divorce is $50,000.

I just finalized mine as well. It's a good thing she cheated, I have proof (photo and email evidence, signed affiidavit, etc ) AND she makes a lot more money than I can make as a pilot. Give me my truck and my clothes, joint custody (3 boys) and I'm on my way.

By the way, I lost 55 lbs, dropped from 35% to 10% body fat and started seeing a smokin' hot chick after the big "D". Bye Bye you cold hearted, egotistical, life-sucking b!thc!!!!!

Cheers !

 

[pgcfii2002]

I love hot women!

 

[jergar999]

Marriage is grand, divorce is $50,000.

I just finalized mine as well. It's a good thing she cheated, I have proof (photo and email evidence, signed affiidavit, etc ) AND she makes a lot more money than I can make as a pilot. Give me my truck and my clothes, joint custody (3 boys) and I'm on my way.

By the way, I lost 55 lbs, dropped from 35% to 10% body fat and started seeing a smokin' hot chick after the big "D". Bye Bye you cold hearted, egotistical, life-sucking b!thc!!!!!

The weight loss thing is funny. I am down a total of 63 pounds since we first separated and I have started working out on a regular basis. It's really amazing how much better you feel after a good workout. While I'm not out seeing anyone I have noticed that I definitely get more attention from the opposite sex.

 

[FlyUnited]

So maybe she cheated on you guys because you looked lousy?

 

[NuGuy]

So maybe she cheated on you guys because you looked lousy?

What really kills me about the men that date women that cheat is that they think it will never happen to them.

Nu

 

[capt. megadeth]

People are naive.

 

[jergar999]

She wasn't a cheater when I married her, and she continues to outweigh me which she did for the duration of our marriage.

 

[yaya]

SOME of you men on here (and women, uhgmmm) are way off base. you want your cake and eat it too. I can't tell you HOW many times I fly with guys that boast their wife stays home, is a teacher or whatever disposable low income job. She is waiting on you hand and foot, you come home to a hot meal, pressed shirts, etc... Then blip, something goes WRONG in your marriage, she cheats on you, or WHATEVER then you want the big D with no obligations. You made a FINANCIAL CONTRACT when you signed up for this game, and it is a life long contract.

Everyone has their problems, so please become a little educated about relationships guys, why not try giving everything to your wife that you plan to give to that hot chick after your divorce...

 

[climbhappy]

these days it's pilots with low paying jobs...either one can have some deep rooted emotional issues. no money or laughs can change it. show me either spouse with some self esteem issue and i'll show you a failed marriage or one that can fail. self esteem issue are the ones most likely to be a feminine one. post partum depression, being unfulfilled, not happy even with the starbucks ,target, bonefish grill lifestyle; leads to a trainwreck

show me one dad who had drowned his kids in the tub. it was susan smith who strapped hers into a mazda and sent them into a lake. the wacko in texas who killed five in a tub. guys are stable. we self medicate with beer and we masturbate alot to make up for the psycho roller coaster that all women stay on.

even if you're successful, you heart's desire is to give suck to junior. why can't i breastfeed 24/7? why?

 

[jergar999]

Update...

Its final!

A judge stamped the divorce a few days ago. Shared custody, we split time with the kids 50/50 and I provide the kids health insurance and give my ex $301 a month. The nightmare is almost over!

 

[FlyUnited]

Right. And that's why the country's prisons are crawling with more male inmates than female.

 

[FlyUnited]

Its final!

A judge stamped the divorce a few days ago. Shared custody, we split time with the kids 50/50 and I provide the kids health insurance and give my ex $301 a month. The nightmare is almost over!

$301 a month?!? What are you, a painter? OMG!