Divorce

[pilotss]

A long time ago at the beginning of my aviation career an older 74 captain looked at me and said, "son, let me give you some advice, find a woman you hate, makes you spit fire when you see her, makes your skin crawl, then buy a house and give it to her. Do this now while your young and you'll be ahead of the game."

 

[climbhappy]

no actually, the female population is up over 70 per cent since 2000. the prisons are overcwrowded with black males , that are crackheads;and gangs, along with your assortment of nutjobs. women are losing the battle with stress. you eat, get fat and go pay la weight loss, or jenny craig, or some other idiot to tell you to quit eating double quarterpounders with cheese and supersize fries, while you sip on a diet coke. of course then you buy jenny's overpriced food then she laughs all the way to the bank.

guys aren't into weight loss. we hunt and kill things, then we drink beer. in cheney's case he hunts and drinks beer at the same time....

 

[NuGuy]

Heyas,

ME = Divorced and pays $0.00 alimony, insurance, NOTHING, nada, zippo, empty set.

GET A PRENUP! If they won't sign, then kick him/her to the curb.

Nu

 

[capt. megadeth]

I just don't get it....

Your chances of a divorce are 50% or more, yet dumb guys STILL propose and get married, let their wives stay at home and get taken to the cleaners
b!tching and moaning about it.

I just don't get it....

Your chances of a divorce are 50% or more, yet dumb women are so desperate to get married, spend thousands on their overpriced "big wedding" and end up getting divorced anyway running around the courts for alimony and child support.

I just don't get it...

Marriage is so f***ing overrated yet fools still rush in.

 

[jergar999]

$301 a month?!? What are you, a painter? OMG!

I know, its a bunch of crap. I have my kids more than she does and I still pay her, but the courts favor women.

 

[FlyUnited]

My neighbor's wife gets around $3000 per month and the house, boat and car......and the kids.

It sucks to be the guy nowadays. You pay to play. Makes more sense to fall in love and STAY that way.

 

[jergar999]

I've dated some nice people since my divorce but there's no way I would be willing to put my life on the line again. It's enough just trying to teach three kids the difference between right and wrong when they get such a bad example half of the time. All in all, I really don't believe marriage itself is a bad idea, I just don't think people spend enough time dealing with the difficult aspects of relationships and family before they rush into it.

 

[NuGuy]

I've dated some nice people since my divorce but there's no way I would be willing to put my life on the line again. It's enough just trying to teach three kids the difference between right and wrong when they get such a bad example half of the time. All in all, I really don't believe marriage itself is a bad idea, I just don't think people spend enough time dealing with the difficult aspects of relationships and family before they rush into it.

Agreed.

I've dated a fair bit since my divorce. I'm no George Clooney, but I'm no Pee Wee Herman, either.

With that said, the quality people are just not out there (or hiding like I am), and certainly not worth the price of admission.

Many I have dated seemed acceptable at first look, but it turned out that they were vapid, vain, shallow, fundamentalist, genuinely stupid or just plain mean. Most have the manners of a goat, and couldn't hold an interesting conversation for a million dollars.

Meh...maybe old Kanye had it right ...

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=Golddigger

Nu

 

[TMMT]

Well I didn't learn my first time around, remarried and now divorced x2. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

I lost a ******************** load, house, cars, savings, investment not to mention a few friends we shared.

Went from living in a nice 2400 square foot house in SoCal to a two room apartment in another city.

No child support (no kids) and no alimony as well, but she raped my a$$ good before she left.

Been almost two years and I can't even find the energy to contemplate asking another woman out on a date. Much less anything resembling a relationship.

 

[jehtplane]

Well I didn't learn my first time around, remarried and now divorced x2. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

I lost a ******************** load, house, cars, savings, investment not to mention a few friends we shared.

Went from living in a nice 2400 square foot house in SoCal to a two room apartment in another city.

No child support (no kids) and no alimony as well, but she raped my a$$ good before she left.

Been almost two years and I can't even find the energy to contemplate asking another woman out on a date. Much less anything resembling a relationship.

Hang in there bro. My wife just recently said she wants a divorce. We have been married 10 years,we have two kids, she is a flight attendant and the only one working right now cause I got Furloughed in January. She is buddy bidding with some FO at ASA if that tells you anything. Everyone is telling me to take her to the cleaners and that is exactly what I thinking about doing, since the roles are reversed a little bit in my case.

 

[capt. megadeth]

Hang in there bro. My wife just recently said she wants a divorce. We have been married 10 years,we have two kids, she is a flight attendant and the only one working right now cause I got Furloughed in January. She is buddy bidding with some FO at ASA if that tells you anything. Everyone is telling me to take her to the cleaners and that is exactly what I thinking about doing, since the roles are reversed a little bit in my case.

OMG! How do you guys survive on an FA salary with 2 kids?

Good luck to you...take her to the cleaners! Women do it all the time.

 

[jergar999]

I made some serious mistakes during my divorce, but the only real piece of advice I can offer anyone is to be as aggressive as you possibly can in protecting yourself and your kids. You can always be nice or give back after the fact. My kids wouldn't have been dragged through all the stuff they have and I would be better off had I chosen to fight more.

 

[tracearabians]

You are getting off easy with only $510 per month for three kids !!!

 

[BeenThereDoneIt]

Child support should be illegal. If you want the kids, then pay for them.

 

[capt. megadeth]

Child support should be illegal. If you want the kids, then pay for them.

If you want to SEE the kids, you should pay for them.

I think alimony should be illegal but not child support.

 

[atpcliff]

Hi!

When I was gone, my CEO (and 2 boys) was paying $600/month JUST for GROCERIES, and we live in GRB, NOT NYC or LAX!!!

cliff
GRB

 

[Amish RakeFight]

Go rent a woodchipper. It's cheaper than divorce, alimony and child support combined.

 

[Flex-ible]

Go rent a woodchipper. It's cheaper than divorce, alimony and child support combined.

You are truly sick. I hope and pray that you are single!

 

[Draginass]

Under no circumstances EVER marry a flight attendant.

 

[DAS at 10/250]

Texas is a no alimony state. Just sayin.

 

[petitepilot]

My grandfather's advice was that a man should never marry before he is 35.
My cousin did that but he's divorced.
But that's because he married the girl he was dating at the time so he could have kids. Didn't love her, and kids don't love him. Not because of anything she did in this case, they just sense it. Mostly though my friends have all dealt with the psycho who turns the kids against the Dad. This should be criminally outlawed.
I think that our media and our legal system has ruined real family creation. Women know how to and have completely manipulated the system with a bunch of tears at the pity party known as a HEARING. We now have a whole generation of kids growing up with psycho mom and learning their twisted warped view on family life. This they are sure to pass on their children with their failed marriages.

I have known some guys who are very seriously dangerous players. No condom, no scruples, and always lying to get what they want from the next warm body. Married or not. Let's suffice it to say it comes from both sides.

If you REALLY WANT a family and a satisfied wife, here's the secret....

If your wife is chattering away, thinking every thought out loud, then she's in her happy place. (Depending on the wife, this can vary extremely, so you may have to exercise your patience). If you are home from the road and you hear silence and she is in the house, while you may feel blessed, you are in danger! Not only must you approach the prickly pear, you must hug it, caress it lovingly, and use all your man wiles to soften it's spines and make it talk about what is up. (The key is she KNOWS you tuned her out yesterday or the day before. She knows you aren't engaged with the current program focus of reentry into household living anymore. Now she's pissed or starting to be.) So hug that sow! (Which brings us to appearance. "Do you think I'm fat? (Answer) "Yes (endearment in your mind.) You were thinner when we met, and I think you are sensitive to that. I think you are unhappy with yourself because you put on a few, but so have I (lie if necessary to take the sting out). Do you think I'm fat?" No
Next question, "Do you love me less? (NO) Well see I don't love you less, however why don't we go walking/to the gym/ together tomorrow, and let's make it a habit. It's something we can do every day together." (Make sure you add in that in).
Summary: Women typically have an imagination that most men can't fathom. Just like a man's imagination runs wild sexually, a WOMANS MIND RUNS WILD ON EVERY OTHER TOPIC UNLESS SHE IS TRYING TO LAND A GUY. So while you are in her sights, you will get everything you want. However, the really nice girl you bypassed for the slut could pull a Jamie Lee Curtis on you.
So pick a nice girl who has nice friends and a nice family. Be true to that relationship, be consistent with regular calls from the road, and try to be a little impulsive occasionally with ideas for things to do together. Require a prenup, but create penalties for both parties, unless you have some sort of family trust to protect. In other words, work out the divorce before you are angry. Also, it might help keep you honest.

Ideas Courtesy of my sister and Life Experience.

Yours Humbly,

PP

 

[NuGuy]

Get a pre-nup.

Cavet Emptor.

Nu

 

[HvyCoffeeDrinkr]

Pre-nup!!!

A woman's perspective...

Get married for the right reasons and make sure your partner signs a pre-nup. And for goodness sake, have all those uncomfortable and important conversations (money, debt, kids, responsibilities, crazy hobbies, unfulfilled sexual fantasies) before you get married.

My husband is the most important person in the entire world to me. He weighs into every decision I make. I make sure he knows how much I respect him and he does the same for me. I don't stay out late drinking on the road because I know that is disrespectful to him. I always try to look good for him. That being said, I am my own person. I think people nowadays lose their personal identities when they get married and have kids. Sadly, too many woman plan the perfect wedding and give no thought towards a realistic marriage.

Also, a pre-nup is a must!! Our pre-nup addresses every aspect of our relationship. All those uncomfortable issues were addressed while we were in a good place and willing to treat each other with respect. It feels good to know that if things go sour in our relationship, our bases are covered and we can work on us, not wasting time on trying to screw each other over. Pre-nups these days can say anything. We have a clause where if one of us cheats, the other person will be compensated with a set dollar amount. Unconventional, I know. But it works for us....

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your divorce. Sometimes the hardest decision isn't the easiest decision, but your happiness is worth it. Good luck!

 

[jimmyw]

Man petite pilot really has a sensible grasp of the obvious. Kids growing up without 2 parents is an epidemic. There are many of us (I made the mistake twice) who marry or date for the wrong reasons. Looks ,sexuality. But you pay in the end. I've had to deal with two ex's who came from less than idylic backgrounds and I thought I could help and mold em. Not a chance. didn't do my homework and stayed on the bus too long. Had to deal with two hostile women when the realationships ended. Two custody fights .One them both, but could have been avoided. Lesson : Choose your life"s mate carefully....With this one decision comes 90 % of your pleasure and PAIN

 

[on autopilot]

Under no circumstances EVER marry a flight attendant.

+1. I know from personal experience. I married one -works (ed) at Comair.

WORST. DECISION. EVER.

 

[on autopilot]

Hang in there bro. My wife just recently said she wants a divorce. We have been married 10 years,we have two kids, she is a flight attendant and the only one working right now cause I got Furloughed in January. She is buddy bidding with some FO at ASA if that tells you anything. Everyone is telling me to take her to the cleaners and that is exactly what I thinking about doing, since the roles are reversed a little bit in my case.

WOW!!!!!! Sounds like you need to keep those records. Your lawyer will need those to prove how unfit a mother she is. I would take her to the cleaners. When I was married to my x fa at comair, the ho did some things and she got rewarded with half my flight school debt, my lawsuit just settled and she gets none of that. Take her to the cleaners!!!