If you want to live in a "nanny" state with someone to tell you when to go to bed, wakeup eat, take a dump, go to class, march, iron your uniform, shine your shoes, then go AFA. If you want to learn to live on you own, develop self disipline, become self reliant then go to the ROTC detachment of your choice. Good Luck...
Yeah, that's exactly what it was like. And all Academy grads are socially inept when they graduate, can't balance a checkbook, can't do their own laundry, can't cook, and only hit on fat chicks.
Go to the Academy if you can. Sure, it sucks, but you won't regret it 10 years after the fact. I've been gone since '95, still keep in touch with several friends, and only have hazy memories of the triple threat saturdays. I do, however, clearly remember the massive amounts of alcohol me and my buds used to quaff. Not that that's the important thing about college, but you will still be able to do some "normal college" stuff.
We had limited UPT slots in '95. USAFA got 225 for about 700 dudes and ROTC got 100 slots....nationwide. The only ROTC guys in my UPT class +/- a few classes were TOP-NOTCH guys. All had 4.0's in quadruple physicnukemechelecspace engineering or something retarded like that and were unit commanders from MIT and Stanford. Well, we did have one Auburn guy, but he struggled. Language barrier. Anyway, if you think you can be that guy, go ahead and go to ROTC.
Also fast foward 20 years. Anyone who believes connections don't matter, just look at our Purple Airline. We alread have 10+ '95 grads on property, and I think I've written a rec for each one of them. Another non-pilot bud just got hired as a lawyer with a very chachi law office headed by a '73 grad. The same can be said for USNA or USMC.
Don't buy into the whole "if you go the Academy you'll be a social hermit for four years." It's just not true. Good luck with whatever you decide.
PS. Once you walk in the door at UPT, it doesn't matter how where you went, where you got your commission, what you majored in, or how many flight hours you have in Skyhawk. The only guy we washed out was a 2000 hr CFII....in instruments.