divorce corner

[MissKittyKat]

Why is it so hard to believe what I write? Just because I got married at 18 does not make me a bad person. I truly believed in marriage and held that in my heart. " I was very young. I had no idea the first husband who did not lay a hand on me would actually, "beat me" after I got married. Remember I was 18.

I lost interest in my second husband, he was 12 years my senior and a bachelor he was 37 I was 24, I still love him dearly but not "in love" with him. Yes, He is a great father and a great person, but not for me, we have simular interests, but he's not into dancing, music and dining, just not much of an artist, but believe me a great father to my son (autistic) and a great person.

I wrote on this board that I was engaged to a dead man, he was a pilot and I'm still engaged to him. He died on a layover in March, I still wear his ring.

Regardless, I can't control people so I'm not sure what happened in my first marriage, remember I was 18, but I tried, believe or not, I am still in contact with him every six months or so, he works for Brahman Motors here in Florida, been there about 12 years and everytime I see him, he still apologizes for his behavihor. I still love my son's Dad, but it is a different kind of love, he just is not for me. Bruce was the love of my life, and what we had was rare, How many people do you that "have been in love for nine years"? Everytime he kissed me, my breath was taken away. We were so involved ingaged by the hip, hand holding everyday, we never felt naked around each other, we felt like we had clothes on, I mean it was that deep. When you get to that point you know that it is right, it was very rare. Please do not make comments that are unsuitable, or you know not to be true, but I had something very very special. I just wish everyone the best of luck, you will be my heart,

and I need to find someone again,take care!

 

[MissKittyKat]

Learflyer, you yourself, personally left a post for me, dated march 8th, you also called me miss twitty kat. Well my name is Tina and I do not appreciate your rude comments. I have every right to defend myself when it comes to stupid people like yourself. I'm not sure if you are 42 like myself but you sir are very rude, you should be ashamed of yourself!

 

[capt. megadeth]

I wrote on this board that I was engaged to a dead man, he was a pilot and I'm still engaged to him. He died on a layover in March, I still wear his ring.

Bruce was the love of my life, and what we had was rare, How many people do you that "have been in love for nine years"? Everytime he kissed me, my breath was taken away. We were so involved ingaged by the hip, hand holding everyday, we never felt naked around each other, we felt like we had clothes on, I mean it was that deep. When you get to that point you know that it is right, it was very rare.

WOW! I am with you.....this kind of stuff is rare. I feel like I have something like that with my fiancee....something not many people have. If something ever happened to him (which I can't imagine what you have gone through.....I would be a complete wreck), I would wear my ring too. I am sorry for your loss....I can't even imagine.

 

[learflyer]

Learflyer, you yourself, personally left a post for me, dated march 8th, you also called me miss twitty kat. Well my name is Tina and I do not appreciate your rude comments. I have every right to defend myself when it comes to stupid people like yourself. I'm not sure if you are 42 like myself but you sir are very rude, you should be ashamed of yourself!

My sincere apologies. Your post did not make sense to me. Did not know about your husband. I feel aweful!

 

[MissKittyKat]

Learflyer, I want to say what a nice gentleman you are! I know that people sometimes can't understand others on message boards, but I wanted to personally accept your apology. Bruce worked for Stanford Financial, and it has been very tuff on me, but I'm managing. He was a Hawker Captain for them and he died in Houston, so I had his body flown home to Florida. I never expected in a million years that I would go through this, and I have tremendous grief. I am sorry even to type what I typed, but I just didn't appreciate through my grief, someone making fun of me. I hope so much that nobody is walking in my shoes.

The problem is Yes, I have been divorced and can understand, no matter what the circumstances are, it is still hard, very hard.

At the time of Bruce's death, his company owed him 10,000 dollars in back pay. I called his company and asked for the checks to be sent promptly so that I could pay the bills "in his name". Well, I won't see a check, even though I'm on the death certificate. Stanford is a Texas company, therefore I'm entitled to his checks (which he made while he was alive) to pay bills.

Like I said, I wish not anyone to walk in my shoes, but the honesty is, the computer, aol, the phone company, the electric company, the water company, are in his name, yet I have not seen a check.

I'm doing ok, but Learflyer, you made my whole day! Thanks for your apology and feel free to pm me anytime,

Tina Leigh

 

[cooler07]

Kewlbeans, Cooler! ^5 to ya! Please let us know where in Russia you go... I've been there a few times on my own dime also.

Not many Redheaded Russians out there, but I know there are a few. Just be careful of that redhead temper!

Thanks AerroMatt its been fun as he11 so far!!!!!
I'll let you know but first stop is Khabarovsk.......!

 

[§kyye Candy]

Time does heal, as Longhorn put it. Some people just do not get along. Or one or the other is lacking. If you had your dream woman or man, would you or would you not spend your entire life with them?

There are many factors that break-up marriages, time away from home, money, bills, lack of sex for both partners, lack of daily touches, hug me, kiss me, scratch my back honey, "just hold me" type of issues.

And then there is a rampage, " I'm just going to do what I what to do attitude" and then this is what becomes devastating"

And then your are no longer interested in that boat that your husband has, you are tired of fishing, and just tired of the same old stuff he does, your husband stopped buying your flowers a long time ago.

You continually have to try new things as a partner to make it work! And you must compromise and contribute!

Hmm.. I was unhappy in my marriage for a while.

He wouldn't bang me hard enough (or long enough.) Finally I figured, screw this - I can do better. So I dumped him. Best decision I ever made.

The 28 y.o. boytoy is working out fantasic!

 

[§kyye Candy]

My sincere apologies. Your post did not make sense to me. Did not know about your husband. I feel aweful!

LOL

Hey TINA - I think I saw Lear over in the corner crying. You are being very very mean!

 

[§kyye Candy]

LOL, yeah I was trying to be a good role model there. In truth, whenever I was asked how I was doing with my alcohol consumption the best I could do was reply "it's gone up." That's probably an understatement. After I gave up the vodka tonics my hands don't shake nearly as much.....LOL

Good to hear - what kind of alcohol did you switch to? LOL

 

[belchfire]

Hehehehehe...


"Her look changes just a bit. Something is beginning to sink in. Naturally, she reverts to women's logic. 'You're full of ********************. You're trapped and you know it.' "

That is classic!

The very idea of someone using knives near the family jewels has always given me the creeps (my eyes either-no lasik for me) but you might have convinced me. I'm too old to go through raising another kid anyhow...

I don't want to get a divorce but I am really getting tired of all the drama when I'm at home!

 

[Joblu]

custody

I recently been presented with the challenge of getting full custody of my two young kids (8-5) Any single dads (pilots) out there that are going through the same challenges? If so, PLEASE any advice is a appreciated! Also any support sites for single dads in our career field out there on the web?

 

[atpcliff]

Hi!

MissKK:

We were successful in getting my dad's bills reduced significantly after he died. He had a number of bills, and assets, in his name.

We called various creditors, and told them that we could afford to pay "X" on a particular bill, and we negotiatied the final payment down to a level we could afford.

When a company realizes that if they demand full payment (which the deceased's estate can't support), the whole situation will go into probate, they'll have to wait a long time to get payment, and it might end up being the amount you offered in the first place, they are very willing to deal with you and work out a reduced payoff and/or payment plan.

Good luck to you, and GOD BLESS!

cliff
YIP

 

[Rip Vanwinkle]

I wrote on this board that I was engaged to a dead man, he was a pilot and I'm still engaged to him.

You're like the Godzilla of F/A cliches. There is literally no escape.

 

[tathepilot]

Just wait a year buddy.

I did and I feel great.!! New job, new city, new woman in my life..
I am very happy right now.!!

 

[Talian]

Marry a rich chick in upper management at a fortune 500 company like I did. I she cheats and divorces me I get half. Since she makes more than me I get allowance from being used to the lifestyle I was living. Thats where most guys especially poor pilots make the mistake. Marry a rich one and they wont dump you they got too much to lose.