Without bothering to read the entire thread, I'll throw in my two cents. My former employer, for whatever reason, did not have many woman pilots. I think it was something like 3 or 4. Only one of them was a captain, who spent most of her time in the training center, and only got out on the line about once a month. I had the opportunity to fly with her once, when I was new. It was pretty non-eventful. She flew like a training-center pilot, meaning you could tell she didn't get out much (in hindsight, as I was new at the time), but she knew that and was took extra time accordingly. I also had the brief chance to spend a few months as a captain. I flew with one woman FO during that time, and of the maybe 20 or so FO's I flew with during my short time in the left seat, she was the best one I flew with. Granted, being a junior captain at the time, I flew with alot of junior FO's, and she was the most senior of the bunch and "knew the program". But nevertheless, she was the best and made my job easy. I would look forward to the opportunity to fly with her again.
I have not had to opportunity to fly with any women captains at my current employer, however I did do a recurrent sim session with one a few months ago. During my 2 hours at the flying pilot, when I am supposed to be being evaluated, I felt as though she was trying to run the show a little too much. Part of me was saying, "okay, she's the captain here", the other part of me was saying, "this is my checkride" as she is leading me into incorrect checklists and rushing how I would handle a V1 engine fire and subsequent emergency return. I guess thats just part of the difference between daily line operations and the simulator, so I didn't say much and let the instructor chew us out after we failed to do the prescribed sequence of emergency checklists.
Perhaps what I'm saying is that women pilots are just pilots like the guys out there. They aren't owed anything special, nor do they have anything to prove. Just do the job and don't try to prove anything, and we'll get along just fine and get home on time without any hassle.