To Any Pilot fathers with great visitation divorce degree????

[freightdogfred]

God, I wish that was absolutely true- but it can bite you in the arse.

Get a good... no, GREAT lawyer.

Best advice yet on this thread, for sure.

A good lawyer knows the law.
A great lawyer knows the judge.

Get the great lawyer.

 

[Shrek]

Funny how just about everyone on Flight Info rakes lawyers over the coals until you need one, and then the advice is to get the best one you can get.

Having been happily married (once) to an exceptionally talented and ethical lawyer for the past 24 years...it gets a little old.

(Kinda like the knee-jerk Democrat bashing here as well, but that's another story...open your minds, folks.)

Isn't it funny that instead of giving a PILOT who is need of good advice a little encouragement or suggestions - you feel the need to tout how important lawyers are.........I hate lawyers just about an RCH less than my ex.

Now go back to your boss and tell her how cool you were on Flight Info and how you laid the SMACKDOWN on a pilot that needed advice in a dire situation. Since she wears the pants in the family and if she is as good as you say - she will tell you to do the dishes and ground you from Hooters with the guys for a month.

You are a class act.........using a fellow pilot's fight of his life to allow you to spout your retarded drivel.

 

[Ralph Wiggums]

Isn't it funny that instead of giving a PILOT who is need of good advice a little encouragement or suggestions - you feel the need to tout how important lawyers are.........I hate lawyers just about an RCH less than my ex.

Now go back to your boss and tell her how cool you were on Flight Info and how you laid the SMACKDOWN on a pilot that needed advice in a dire situation. Since she wears the pants in the family and if she is as good as you say - she will tell you to do the dishes and ground you from Hooters with the guys for a month.

You are a class act.........using a fellow pilot's fight of his life to allow you to spout your retarded drivel.

Hey, Shrek,

Fu@k you.

 

[((7))]

Good description Shrek, only thing you forgot to tell the lawyers Cabana Boy was to make it snappy when carrying the Makeup case. Also he better make sure he puts the toilet seat down or the barrister will have his *************************fied A$$ in court. Pathetic Mr "Militant Civilian", your dribble reminds me of the idiot Occum Razor's babbling. Get back in the kitchen and whip up a Tofu sandwich for Ms. Johnny Cockran before she kicks your A$$.

 

[lowtimedriver]

Best check I write every month.

Amen. It is worth it.

 

[difete]

I am in a similar boat.

 

[snoopy14]

Don't believe her!!!! Keep telling your story and never give in. Your only as good as your lawyer, get references. PM me, I;ve got lots of good advise. I went through this about a year ago and have my 4 year old daughter 14 days a month!!!!!! Shocked the ex, it didn't look good in the beginning, but if you DONT SETTLE and show your not a bad dad things will work out. The first thing you need to do is tell her that ALL communication will be done thru email only. Keep records, it amazing how women cannot control their emotions. Remember their is more than one way to skin a cat.

 

[stlflyguy]

I went through this five years ago. My ex-wife had used a militant-type (for lack of a better description) lawyer. The ex- had also wanted full custody of my (then) four year old son.

She tried to use my career as a justification for sole custody. In MO, the court needs to really be swayed by some stellar evidence of being an unfit parent in order to deny custody of any sort. They stick to the "state standard" and you can negotiate to increase (decrease) visitation accordingly. But to gain sole custody is hard to do. You could be a piss-poor husband but if you're a great Dad, she'd have no leg to stand on.

Recommendations: giving her the house? Have her get life insurance while your name is still on the house.

stlflyguy

 

[vtwo]

I email my ex by the 27th of the month for the next month, I have 1st choice days. they are any wed, thurs.
I also take any 2 of the last 3 weekends, (fri,sat,sun)
so as you can see.
I ws getting wed, thur, fri,sat, and sunday twice a month. plus an normal every other holiday sched.
She gets the first weekend of the month for ever. so as you can see she can plan things then.

Now the reality sets in that she schedules the kids to be very busy on my time. so it often make me sacrifice my events and planning.
good luck.

 

[Amish RakeFight]

I'm a proud graduate of the Tom Leykis/ Andy Randead school of thought.....

http://www.thegreatfemalecon.com/

Listen to the radio cast on the left of the screen...........I was once de-balled but now I am Found Brotha!

Lyekis 101 - Grad here too!

www.nomarriage.com


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[jimmyw]

I went through the same thing 8 years ago.Took six months off of flying.Snapped out of it got an attorney(female) who was knowlegable re: a malady known as malicious mother syndrome and the PAL..parental alienation syndrome.Both produce negative consequences for children let alone the "victim" parent.15 contact days a month are more than most non-flying dads when you consider total contact time.I did what others advised. Document,great attorney,great guardian ad-litem,keep your cool especially in legal settings.I used to say I had the worst career and the worst ex which meant limited contact with my infant daughter.It took a while and a psychology report to boot.But it worked out.My ex spent two weeks in jail for interfering with court directives and visitation schedules.I got custody on that day she was sentenced.Fight the good fight.
The Best Parent is Both Parents......sometimes!!!

Much Luck

 

[G-force]

Re:cool,under All Circumstances?????

Be Cool. Avoid baseball bats and shovels. I got my kids on all my days off up to half the time. I pay a reduced amount of child support and life is good. Be the better person and it will pay off.[

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Hey captain c,dude,how cool would you be if your child's mother absconded with your child and it has been 17 years since you have seen him because they have moved 23 times since,and it has been difficult to find the child???

 

[bizicmo]

First of all brother......sit and breath really deeply. Understand that she can not do this to you JUST because you are a pilot. I am sure you are a good dad - the best we all can doing this job.

Prepare for a long long war that hopefully will eventually end up as a constant thorn in your side the rest of your life. That is the goal - the more you can both work together to raise your child the better it is for the child. The court is set up supposedly in that way- not what is in the best interest of either you or her but what is in the best interest of the CHILD. That means he/she needs a DAD and a Mom.

That being said - try to get the best family lawyer you can afford and tell them what is going on. Previous advice is good too - document EVERYTHING. Every single call/visit you make to defend you on the abandonment argument. She may badmouth you every chance she gets but suck it up and don't return the favor - it will pay huge dividends in the future. I am very sorry you are going through this.......as you can guess I am as well.

Think tortoise and not hare in this race.........in the end all the effort will be worth it.

Whoa! Whoa! Whoa! That means she/he needs a DAD and a MOM. Or a MOM and a MOM or a DAD and a DAD.