How meany rape victims look back and have a chuckle and beer with their rapist?
Okay, I stand corrected. A few (probably on both sides), and it seems you two guys, will spend the rest of their lives bitter and ugly. Hopefully you'll have a nice life otherwise.
I suspect the rest of us can move on, knowing that neither side asked for this, and we did our best to make it work out. Good luck to you, though!
Bubba