Problem is that too many (not all by any stretch) are also pro death penalty and pro-war. My personal definition of "pro-life" doesn't allow for exceptions.
Let me step forward and try to help you with this confusion, midlifeflyer. There is no exception necessary if you are working from a basis of facts. In this case, the facts come from a long time ago.
Several people will very likely be offended by this post. ***WARNING*** Discussion of morality in this post.
Pro-Life is a specific position with the regard to the taking of
innocent life. That does not simply mean that this life has not been found guilty of a crime, but that it has literally been
murdered by the person who has been charged with its preservation, nurturing, and growth. In the words of Shakespeare, it is "murder most foul".
How can this position be aligned with a pro-war (I'll go along, and use your term here, to keep this short) and a pro-death penalty position?
Going to the lodestone of our moral compass, the Creator, we find his basic guide of ten items upon which our realtionship to Him and each other is based. One item is misunderstood. Over the years, it has come to be taken as (in 1611 English) "thou shalt not kill". That seems pretty clear until you go to the actual scriptual references, which is a quite different matter:"thou shalt not
murder.
You might have read my previous post regarding the basis of our morality, and the proper place for the civil government of
man. The civil government can take a life as punishment, as reaffirmed by the crucifixtion (there's your aprroval of the death penalty) and can prosecute war against another nation for
cause. This is considered to be righteous and just. It is not
murder, as was prohibited by the commandment. In murder, one human acts to take the life of another without just cause. If a robber pulls a gun on you and you can shoot him first, it is not a case of murder, but self defense. A war can also be undertaken for
just cause under the rule of law. The most famous case of approved war is when Israel faced off against the Phillistines, and David slew a giant named Goliath. Even if you regard this story as a fairy tale, it still serves as a good illustration of an approved situation where a life is taken.
So you see, this is truly a harmonius position when you understand the difference between
killing and
murder. Even under modern law, they are not the same thing.