future wife doesn't understand

[Princedietrich]

Come on, booze isn't all bad. If it wasn't for booze how would you drag those guys that are in "drunken last chance desperation mode" out of the bar with you at 2am, for a romantic evening of megadeth and armwrestling. You probably call them sugarplum too.

Megadeth and armwrestling? Sounds like my kinda gal.

 

[FoxyWhiskey]

I think I might hold the record for keeping the home fires burning, I'd like to hear of any non military aviation wife/girlfriend whose able to beat my record.

Right now he's gone for 5-6 months straight overseas, he was home for one month solid just before that. Previous to that month he was gone for 4 months solid, then the year and a half before that, I saw him for about a day and a half everyother week. And to top it off, all of his work for the last year has been under very hazerdous/dangerous working conditions.

I'd like to see anyone who can beat that away record!

Guess I can beat it: My husband just finished a 6 month deployment overseas while I managed to keep a normal flight schedule at work AND raise two small children. No help from family, just a lot of schedule trades!

-FW

 

[pilotyip]

It takes a special spouse who is committed to the other person to keep things together under these conditions. I know this is not a record but I have special wife who put up with 7 mos in Vietnam, 3 months home, 9 months in Spain, 4 months home followed by 5 months in Sicily. Not to mention being ships’ company and not being home for more than 24 hours at a time for the six months prior to deploying. It comes with the job and you learn to live with it.

 

[CHQFA00]

To the original poster, tell her "suck it up buttercup".

If she doesn't like it, it's her problem, not yours, and you need to drop her like a bad habit.

I would never ask my husband to give up his airline job because that's what he wants to do and that's what puts the food on the table. If she can match the money you make tell her that she can work and you can sit around and do nothing.

 

[capt. megadeth]

To the original poster, tell her "suck it up buttercup".

If she doesn't like it, it's her problem, not yours, and you need to drop her like a bad habit.

I would never ask my husband to give up his airline job because that's what he wants to do and that's what puts the food on the table. If she can match the money you make tell her that she can work and you can sit around and do nothing.

Amen sista!

 

[acaTerry]

www.nomarriage.com

That was one of the biggest wastes of time in my life. Created by, maintained by, and supported by...idiots.
I have been flying over 20 years, was a military man, and have been married over 10 years (yes, 1st marriage--read that ONLY---marriage). And you can blame the job, the military, bad sex, whatever...the thing that causes a marriage to fail is simply marrying the wrong person. No I didn't f-ck around before I was married, neither did my wife. We didn't "test things out" by shacking up before getting married, and no, I don't think a real man needs porn. If you get to KNOW the person, and quit judging your prospects of getting married by how good they are in bed,

 

[acaTerry]

That was one of the biggest wastes of time in my life. Created by, maintained by, and supported by...idiots.
I have been flying over 20 years, was a military man, and have been married over 10 years (yes, 1st marriage--read that ONLY---marriage). And you can blame the job, the military, bad sex, whatever...the thing that causes a marriage to fail is simply marrying the wrong person. No I didn't f-ck around before I was married, neither did my wife. We didn't "test things out" by shacking up before getting married, and no, I don't think a real man needs porn. If you get to KNOW the person, and quit judging your prospects of getting married by how good they are in bed,

OOPS...didn't get it all...anyway (let me assume soapbox again...

how much money they will make, or whatever...you will not go wrong. In this guys case, dump her. She doesn't love you. Dump her, she'll leave you as soon as things get tough. Dump her, she'll get a boyfreind when you are gone.
Don't join the Failed Marriage Club. If flying is what you do, then find someone who accepts it, and lasts a long time with you before getting married. Marriage is a great thing with the right person. I didn't trade in my ba11s or whatever else people tell you about marriage. If ya got the right one, nothings better.

 

[Oh-ryan]

That was one of the biggest wastes of time in my life. Created by, maintained by, and supported by...idiots.
I have been flying over 20 years, was a military man, and have been married over 10 years (yes, 1st marriage--read that ONLY---marriage). And you can blame the job, the military, bad sex, whatever...the thing that causes a marriage to fail is simply marrying the wrong person. No I didn't f-ck around before I was married, neither did my wife. We didn't "test things out" by shacking up before getting married, and no, I don't think a real man needs porn. If you get to KNOW the person, and quit judging your prospects of getting married by how good they are in bed,

You're right... I don't need it. I want it every once in a while though.

 

[av8er2]

She has told you how she feels. She probably won't change. Some women don't mind pilots being gone some and some can't stand it. A pilot needs to understand what she wants. Not all women can handle a commuting pilot. This is why I think the divorce rate is so high with pilots, they don't understand the wife and/or try to change her.

Good luck.

 

[800Dog]

She has told you how she feels. She probably won't change. Some women don't mind pilots being gone some and some can't stand it. A pilot needs to understand what she wants. Not all women can handle a commuting pilot. This is why I think the divorce rate is so high with pilots, they don't understand the wife and/or try to change her.

Good luck.

Not that this is scientific or anything but, I have been in the airline industry for about 12 years and the divorce rate among pilots I have met and flown with seems to mirror that of the general population.