Of course, you're only reading the "he said" side of the story. I imagine "she" would sing a different tune.
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Well, actually the information is from the police report. The only thing that the article clearly identifies as something "he said" is that "she was stressed out" The rest of the rest of the descritption may or may not have been what "he said". The article is unclear, but consider this, the writer obvously dug up the police report, which would have contained the statements from both parties. The writer is obviouly attempting to paint Starr in an unfavorable light, if the wife's statements gave a much different version of the incident, which accused Starr of much more heinous crimes, don't you think the author would have reported this? Sometimes, what is *not* said tells you more than what *is* said.
Either way, no self-respecting man hits a girl - - ever.
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Yeah, no argument, but he didn't hit her. He *pushed* her. there's a big difference. Consider 2 possible scenarios:
1) He turns to leave, she throws the guitar at him, he turns around, rushes her, pushes her against a wall and she falls down.
2)He turns to leave, she throws the guitar at him, then as he's picking up the broken pieces of his guitar, she comes at him scratching, kicking. He pushes her away to keep from getting his face clawed.
Big difference between he two, isn't here? Yet, both scenarios fit the few details we have been given.
I know a guy who pushed his wife. Know him quite well, also know his wife. She was a raging alcoholic, he came home one night form working overtime, she was drunk, argument ensued, continued, persisted. He went in the bedroom to go to bed, she followed, attacked him, kicking, hitting. He *pushed* her away from him, onto the bed, ferecrissakes. No injuries of any kind to her. She jumps up calls the cops. they come, he is arrested.. She sobered up and changed her tune, but it was too late the charges were filed and he got a couple of days in jail. To his credit, he stuck with her and helped her get off the bottle, and he's still with her. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have.
Now, domestic violence is a serious problem, I certainly agree with that. but somehow we have created a system of dealing with it which is grossly biased against males. It is so grossly biased, and there is such a presumption of guilt, that it has become a very powerful and easy to wield wepon for any woman who may chose to wield it. It's really simple. Call the cops, say he slapped me. Chances are he spends the night in jail at the very least. Case goes to court, even if the guy is not convicted he will always have a court record of domestic violence charges. If she's a really convincing liar, he very well may do some jail time. That's a pretty big hammer to give to women, and it's really easy to use, all it takes is a phone call and a lie. Anyone out there who thinks that women never do that is hopelessly naive
