Would you get divorced to stay a pilot?

[Pilot124]

I did. Was it worth it? I don't know yet, but I do love flying. A high percentage of pilots get divorced anyways so at least I got mine out of the way. Anyone else get divorced b/c of the constant, training, studying, away so long?

 

[Purple Haze]

No.

 

[TEXAN AVIATOR]

Not married but my Fiancé and I are "Spending time apart" at the time. Some of the reason is the whole having zero free time as a CFI in training-CFI thing. I was upset until I got back into the cockpit.

 

[ATL2CDG]

Pilot124:

You abandoned your spouse and ignored covenants that you made before God because of your 'relationship' with flying?

Go see your bishop, priest, rabbi, iman, preacher or other religious authority and get some counseling FAST!

Good luck to you - you seem to need it.

TysV

 

[350DRIVER]

ATL2CDG,

I surely do not think he will need much luck at all. If something is not working then obviously one must make a change for the better or be miserable, no different than any other couple who cannot work things out. He enjoys flying and that conflicted with his marriage in some way unfortunately, no longer a problem present day. Only time shall tell if he made the correct choice for the better.

Go see your bishop, priest, rabbi, iman, preacher or other religious authority and get some counseling FAST!

Heavenly intervention going to work here? lol A tad comical though..

3 5 0

 

[ATL2CDG]

350DRIVER:

Sorry, but I disagree.

Marriage, if performed by a religious authority rather than a civil one, is a sacred covenant. If Pilot124 broke this covenant so carelessly over this trivial matter, it's obvious that religious intervention is required. If it was a civil marriage, then perhaps he should seek counsel from his parents on the importance of commitment, responsibility and obligation.

People today throw marriages away like old socks; 'it doesn't fit anymore, so I'll just toss it.' My wife and I are Latter-Day Saints (or Mormons, to the layman). She and I were sealed in the Chicago Illinois Temple just under a year ago, after a civil marriage a year earlier (I was a new convert to the faith and as a result should not attend the temple when we originally wed). While our church gives marriage a much higher importance than most Christian faiths, I recognize the supreme importance that God places on those covenants (read: promises and vows) made when a man takes a wife. These covenants are NOT made in a drunken stuppor in Las Vegas or between two desparate people simply seeking companionship of a hot body. These vows, when made between a man and a woman of one mind, one faith and one spirit, are NOT to be broken under any circumstances (with the exception of physical/mental/emotional violence that counseling fails to resolve). Just because you disagree or can't find common ground on a few menial issues, you don't have the right to just run. Marriage, like many other commitments, takes work and time. If you were unwilling to put forth the effort to make a successful marriage, you shouldn't have wed in the first place. It saddens me to think of the homes that have been broken (like my childhood home) and lives that have been destroyed because husband and wife were simply too lazy or too faithless to put forth the necessary effort. Children are too often the innocent victims of this slothness.

Just my two cents...

TysV

 

[Hugh Jorgan]

Marriage is the number one cause of divorce.

 

[MetroSheriff]

350DRIVER:

Sorry, but I disagree.

Marriage, if performed by a religious authority rather than a civil one, is a sacred covenant. If Pilot124 broke this covenant so carelessly over this trivial matter, it's obvious that religious intervention is required. If it was a civil marriage, then perhaps he should seek counsel from his parents on the importance of commitment, responsibility and obligation.

People today throw marriages away like old socks; 'it doesn't fit anymore, so I'll just toss it.' My wife and I are Latter-Day Saints (or Mormons, to the layman). She and I were sealed in the Chicago Illinois Temple just under a year ago, after a civil marriage a year earlier (I was a new convert to the faith and as a result should not attend the temple when we originally wed). While our church gives marriage a much higher importance than most Christian faiths, I recognize the supreme importance that God places on those covenants (read: promises and vows) made when a man takes a wife. These covenants are NOT made in a drunken stuppor in Las Vegas or between two desparate people simply seeking companionship of a hot body. These vows, when made between a man and a woman of one mind, one faith and one spirit, are NOT to be broken under any circumstances (with the exception of physical/mental/emotional violence that counseling fails to resolve). Just because you disagree or can't find common ground on a few menial issues, you don't have the right to just run. Marriage, like many other commitments, takes work and time. If you were unwilling to put forth the effort to make a successful marriage, you shouldn't have wed in the first place. It saddens me to think of the homes that have been broken (like my childhood home) and lives that have been destroyed because husband and wife were simply too lazy or too faithless to put forth the necessary effort. Children are too often the innocent victims of this slothness.

Just my two cents...

TysV

Dude, go tell it on the mountain, eh?

 

[Q200_FO]

Why is it the guy's fault? Mabye it's her fault. We don't have both sides to the story to go on here.

 

[hawkercpt]

if you....

love something,set it free. If it truely loves you it will come back to you.




If not, you hunt it down and kill it!

 

[46Driver]

If flying is more important to you than your significant other, then you have a serious misplacement of priorities.

 

[blahshmah]

If you were a pilot before or working to be a pilot before y'all wed then she needed to accept your profession. If she has a problem with how you earn a living now then she needs to work on her problem. My guess is she told you that it is her or flying... you made the right choice. She had no right to ask you that. God knows what else she will have asked had you given up flying. Life is too short... this isn't a dress rehearsal.

Atl... what does the bible say about judging God's children?

 

[Kingairrick]

Anyone else get divorced b/c of the constant, training, studying, away so long?

I think most get divorcred because of the constant, bitching, moaning, whining, and too long at home...

Kidding. I love my wife. i love my wife. i love my w.....

 

[Flywrite]

Just remember, nobody lies on their deathbed wishing they had another hundred hours of PIC time...

 

[Snakum]

Just remember, nobody lies on their deathbed wishing they had another hundred hours of PIC time...

Agreed. If you find "the one", and you know in your heart that you want to wake up to the same face every morning for the rest of your life, and you want to raise a family with this person ... you wouldn't hesitate to find a regular job. So maybe she ain't "the one".

But it's also true that life's too short to be miserable.

H@ll ... what do I know ... I've been married three times. Me giving marital advice is like having Charles Manson for an OBGyn nurse.



Minh

 

[Dizel8]

Not sure about the deathbed thing, think it totally depends on the aircraft type

 

[vclean]

Flying is a fun job...but still just a job. Your spouse is part of your life. Not an even trade. Growing old together is priceless. I wouldn't throw that away for any job.

Don't forget, you are one medical away from choosing a new career.

 

[ATL2CDG]

blahshmah:

I'm not judging... I'm still laying it out like it is. Divorce should be an option of ABSOLUTE last resort. I was simply counseling this gentleman to seek help because, based on the VERY little information he provided, it seems he has a misguided priorities and ought to get help for it.

There is a big difference between saying, 'Dude, that was so wrong. You're going to hell and you're an idiot,' and saying, 'You made a poor decision and you ought to seek help.'

TysV

 

[AA717driver]

It's a cooperative thing. If you were flying when you started dating, then she'd better learn the life and get used to it. This B.S. of women or men trying to change their spouse AFTER they are married has caused, IMO, the bulk of the divorces I've seen.

If you decide to change careers after you are married WITHOUT your spouse's consent, you are looking for trouble.

You have to work together. If she won't work with you--S**TCAN HER! (Just kidding!)TC

 

[JohnDoe]

Quote:

"If flying is more important to you than your significant other, then you have a serious misplacement of priorities."




Exactly!!! (and people wonder how companies can pay pilots 18k a year, AND charge you for your training).

Lets pray Pilot124 never has any children. Whats he going to do then......give them up for adoption when they get in the way of flying??