The tattooed wife

[kommutrdog]

Amish,

Very true. Once a woman feels it's over, she will hang in until something better comes along. They need to build up resentment and disdain for the guy, so in their mind, she had to leave. It can't possible be her fault, can it. He is not meeting her emotional needs.

If the wife wanted a tattoo to make her feel young and alive again, shouldn't she have shared that with her husband and alleged partner?

It's a tramp stamp. We all know what it represents and the implied meaning behind it:

"Please look at my a$$! And if you play your cards right you might see more."

Sorry for the brutal honesty. G

I agree with the other poster. Get a PI when you are on a trip. Just be prepared for what he may find.

 

[Amish RakeFight]

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[kommutrdog]

Why does it seem so unlikely that she got it alone? Please don't take it personal but I sense some trust issues.. Do you trust her..??

I can appreciate trying to see all angles, but face the reality:

Women don't go to the bathroom by themselves. Do you really think she went and got a permanent, marriage-straining tat on her own?

Don't be naive. Where there is smoke...

NOTHING a woman says means anything. It's how she acts towards you that matters. ALWAYS.

 

[Amish RakeFight]

Trust your gut. It NEVER fails.

Sometimes things don't seem or feel right, yet we can't explain why we feel this way. Our primitive instincts should override our rational thoughts. There is something registering subconsciously that we aren't immediately figuring out in our rational, developed mind.

You may dismiss things which seem rationally copasetic, but our primitive instincts can pick up on subtle body movements, facial expressions, gestures, etc. which can produce these feelings of uneasiness. They were there to help guide us long before we learned to communicate verbally in a logical manner. This allows us to be more easily deceived verbally.

 

[Mr. Irrelevant]

Women with that bulls-eye above their butt are essentially asking to be treated with less respect! If I'm in a good mood, I'll help em out with their request....Those are the best midnight booty calls!

Mr. I.

 

[MQAAord]

Did you ask her what was up with it and why she did it anyway?

What were the conversations like? Did you get the feeling there was something "hiding", something she's not telling you? I agree with trusting your gut if something really seems fishy. Are there any other signs that there's something going on? (Check cell phone call/text records, etc?)

It could just be a mid-life crisis. Women have 'em too. A 45-year old guy goes and buys a 'vette, that doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating.

It could be something else, and maybe she didn't go alone........

Without knowing either of you personally, it's really pretty hard to tell. Listen to your gut and what's being said in words and actions.

 

[sqwkvfr]

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[tracearabians]

So about a month ago, my wife asked if I thought she should get a tattoo. We talked about it and by the end of the discussion, she didn't want one anymore (horray!). I come home from a five day trip, and as she's making dinner, what do I notice as she bends over? A lower back tattoo! Mmmm, ok. I say nothing, and the night goes on. We go to bed, and she wears a t-shirt to bed (not entirely uncommon). She asks me to get up and take a shower first the next morning, and I do. After I get dressed and go downstairs, she gets up and showers, gets dressed etc.

After being home a full 24 hours it's obvious that she doesn't plan to tell me about her new tattoo anytime soon, so I tell her I saw it. She was embarrassed and says she was going to show me later. I asked her who she got it with, and she tells me she went alone.

What do you guys think? Is she full of crap, and maybe is seeing someone on the side? I just have a hard time believing that she got this tattoo alone, especially after decided she didn't want one. It sort of sounds like a few drinks later, she ended up in the tattoo shop ,if you ask me.

Thoughts? Ideas? I guess more and more women are tattooed these days, eh? This is a 43 year old mother of two!

Would you post a photo of it ?

 

[Flyingdutchman]

Hate to say it, but this guy is right on the money...

Feel for you, bro.

When the wife doesn't tell her husband about the tramp stamp, it means her mind is elsewhere already.
Send HER packing. She wants to play sorority girl, have her do it away from your kids. We all know what's the mentality/mindset of the lower-back "Tramp Stamp". You know it, I know it, she knows it and all her friends know it.

Whatever you do, DO NOT kiss her A$$ and bend to her will. She doesn't respect you now, she will respect you even less later if you go "OK, honey."
Don't play 'insecure macho-boy'. Play it cool and have her hit the bricks. Throw her out if you have to. There is no room in a marriage for that kind of BS.

Just be sure to have your 'womanese-to-english' dictionary handy when she start to spill the BS about how she 'needs to find herself' or how she 'needs her own space' or how you 'don't meet her emotional needs'.

Been there, dude. Dating only foreign women now, and LOVING IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! imp:

American women get their head filled so full of BS on a DAILY basis from 'the View' Oprah, etc, that it is impossible for them to stay grounded in reality.

Her mind is elsewhere and she'll twist things in that typical woman brain of hers that she will convice herself that it is YOUR FAULT she needs to "find herself".

I've heard stories like these a hundred times before. They are always the same.

Don't EVER believe a woman's words. It is only her actions that count. Only actions, remember that! Words are meaningless babble out of a woman's pie hole. If she is "In to you", her actions will show that.

Women operate by feelings and emotions, not written or spoken words. Feelings.

If her feelings for you are positive her actions will be positive. If her feelings for you are 'distant' she will ACT distant from you. It is unavoidable. It is how they are programmed. It only matters how a woman ACTS towards you...not her words.

Get yourself a pre-paid legal plan NOW. Costs about $100-$150/month and will strengthen your position, because in the back of your brain, you won't be worried about the financial cost of the divorce proceedings, if it heads that way. Trust me on this.

Would you stay with your wife if it wasn't for the kids, after this stunt?

Didn't think so. Go get yourself a pre-paid legal plan.

Good luck. PM me if you want to rap. Feel for you, bro.

 

[Flyingdutchman]

Coming to think of it.... Altough most girls I slept with with a trampstamp on their backs where about 20 years younger then you wife, they all had issues big time.... Connection there maybe? weird....

But I have to say, your wife going behind your back to get a trampstamp? I do not thing that she went and did it together with someone else, but the fact that she is hiding it (was hiding it rather) from you does tell me there is a lot more going on...

Confront her with your fears, ask her what you want too know and look her in they eyes... You will know...

women......

FD