Some CA’s do indeed set a good example of what not to do.
And again your six months of experience gives you the knowledge to differentiate between made up policies and tribal knowledge. I’ve had many F/O’s tell me what I am doing is not SOP only to find out that this is just the way things are done in a particular airport. Ex. Ground operations in ORD once you land, you going to tell the CA to stop so you can contact ground? I’m not quite sure what you mean by flight deck agenda but if it dosent affect the safety of the aircraft or put the rest of the crew in any harm or trouble turn a blind eye & let the CA do his thing, after all it is HIS Ship.
I’ve flown with many scary people in my time and have always tried to “assist” the CA when he/she does any of the items mentioned above. However, when trying to correct a CA on his technique always be tactful and respectful even if you don’t respect him.
And this is the way it should be, no matter where you are your first year motto needs to be “cooperate and graduate”
I don’t think I misread your post at all. I was a F/O once and guess what, I feel your pain. I know where you are coming from but in the end, it is YOU who needs to be a chameleon and adapt to whatever the CA wants. You are a first year F/O and will be treated as such until you prove your worth in the cockpit. Again your attitude shows that you still need some time to grow up and build a thicker skin.
Your peers are the reason some CA’s have to set a Sh!TTy tone right from the start. Some new-hire F/O’s come in with a don’t tell me what to do attitude, unprepared for the flight, and think its cool not to know Sh!t about the airplane or regs. That pissy, micromanaging wacko probably wasn’t always that way, but over time had to adjust, just to survive. And if you think its bad now, just wait till you get to the majors where you will get a CA who will not put up with your Sh!t and run that airplane like he owns it. Luckily, the people you mention only make up about 10% of the pilot population and it sounds like you may have gotten more than your share in the first six months of your career. However, always keep in mind that no matter how bad you don’t like flying with them, they are still your CA and should be treated with the utmost respect. I’m sure when you upgrade you will want the same level of respect from your F/O’s.