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netjetwife said:therefore, I politely suggest that you put me on your ignore list since my sincere form of support doesn't meet with your approval. It's my honest opinion that you'd be much happier that way...
A classical response to ignoring ones problems; tell the other person to go away. You’ve obviously missed the point I was making, I could care less what you say or how you say it. I might not agree with you, but your comments don’t aggravate me like they do so many others. My sister is a professional Psychologist in Kansas City, she deals primarily with married couples going through challenging times, and I hear it from her all the time, people get into severely stressed situations and make assumptions or tie into other aspects of their lives problems which aren’t the real issue. It’s 'the everything' is wrong with the system approach, when in all actuality its only one small thing.
Example: A good friend of mine is being sued by a general contractor here in N.C. for pulling out of a house purchase after he realized the basement was flooding. The contractor (not an upstanding businessman) is desperate to sell the house, so he sues my friend for ‘breach of contract’. Meanwhile, 65 miles away, my wife and I are using a contractor to build our new home in the CLT area. According to your logic, I should put up my guard, and get ready to fight because my friend has obviously seen what general contractor are all about. Well we all know that is false logic. Just as your comparison of your brothers murder and its fight for a justice through the criminal proceedings to the contract struggles and workers issues of the fractional pilot groups in America. They have nothing, absolutely nothing to do with each other. You are obviously trying to tie the events together because they mean so much to you, but sadly they don’t make sense because no one is in your position. Therefore your argument is tainted to a personal issue, making your logical comparison mute in all aspects.
You’re dealing with a tremendous amount of personal anxiety and stress in your life. I feel you are searching for an avenue to express yourself; and there is nothing wrong with that. If you don’t feel comfortable with using professional counselors, then perhaps you should consider Law School or taking some courses in Political Science. Either might be an excellent venue to release some of your ‘emotional baggage’. Everyone has it, and you are not the only one who hasn’t found a way to deal with it.
That being said; posting under an anonymous nickname on a website where there are more flame throwing hand grenades than downtown Baghdad isn’t going to solve your problems (unless your not really a married woman, and your posing as one to live out one of those alternative internet lifestyles, which would be really sick). And if it were normal for a spouse to be using this website to offer support and encouraging remarks to the “galactic pilot universe”, why are you the only one? Why don’t you start your own pilot resource and support network website where you can control what is said and done? I bet 75% of the pilots on here have wives. Where are they? (Mine left for work 30 minutes ago and told me to get the living room vacuumed… I need a job again but that’s another story) Your never going to solve all the injustices in life, or fix all the bankrupt companies that ruin workers lives… and the sooner you realize there is never going to be an American Utopia, the sooner you can live by my approach:
Do right by others; even if they poke you in the eye, their problem is not my problem. Don’t sweat the small stuff, and enjoy everyday like it was your last.
Best of Luck,
Alan C
