wmn_av8r
There are a ton of opinions on this board, some sour and some helpful. First of all it's important to realize how tough times are, recognizing that you either have to make aviation the sole focus of your life (right now anyway), or just a hobby while you work in another field.
Option #1 means willing to relocate and work for pennies under some less than desireable conditions. There will definitely be days you question your decision.
Option #2 keeps flying fun, but may not make headway toward an aviation career.
Don't let anyone put you down, due to their individual situation. you are a female pilot, fine. You will run into some attitudes. My wife is an ATP who was struggling to find a job, she finally landed one with a fractional outfit in FL. With my flight benefits she is able to commute. She has certainly put in her time instructing, hauling checks, etc. It's important to keep the faith.
I think the Women In Aviation would be a good chance for you to network and learn how to best forward your career.
Good luck!