Welcome to the continuing exodus to the "other side of the fence". Mooseflyer gave you great words to follow...if you cross paths with him someday---you buy the first round. The AIRINC/Darby scam is a tough one. His group tends to take a lot of $200+ membership fees and folks mostly seem to be unimpressed with the service and info. The Air Inc job fair is a sight to behold though, and probably worth the inflated entry fee to actually see the number of young civvie pilots who've put a lot of effort, time and dollars to be pretty competitive versus the mil-types who also put a lot of time in, but has Uncle Sam to pay the bills and the support flight network. You can (and will) learn a lot from the civvie pilots when you get a chance to fly with them...they've paid their dues. You'll also see the number of military types who really are neophytes when it comes to preparing for the real world (been there...done that...was humbled...had to buy the T-shirt).
Before you throw $$$$'s towards the Air Inc thing, check the base library for their books in the reference section. If it's not there, see if they can get copies. I saw their whole kit in a couple of CONUS base libraries (unless your wing king has decided it's not conducive to proper military education to know what awaits you outside the main gate...saw that too). This website is a goldmine of info...do many searches and learn from others.
Good luck, fly safe...