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[ThomasR]

lola,

Thanks dear. I sense a casual way in your writing. I am happy you took an interest. I have a lot of things bouncing around in my head and it is good to see others unbiased review. It is clear that whether it is, in fact, her attitude or my own perception of her (skewed by my own influences) makes little difference. This just is not a workable combination. I was trying to form an opinion of her with very little information about her.

Note to self :

1. No information=No opinion.
2. Conflicting Information=weight & balance check / not clear to go.
3. Any action other than, "come here I want you"=not clear to land go to an alternate.
4. Lack of Response=Squawk 1200 QSY to Center.
5. Opposites are only good in politics and fist fights.

OK, with being friends if we have anything in common No floating, diving or swimming ........ out of sight, out of mind.

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ResumeWriter helped me with this situation, but I need all the help I can get.....women.

(I'd ask for male opinions but I don't trust them... Just Kidding Although if I followed some of their advice I'd wind up in jail.)

I saw the library girl again. She has the same intense forward concentration. Seems not to be aware of things in her immediate environment. She changed her hair style, much better, more of a wild look.

I figured out this time, seeing her again (2nd time), it is not her outstanding beauty that I am stunned by, rather, her lack of interest in her surroundings. She is so very focused I think an introduction would be pointless (in one ear out the other). She does not talk to people unless asking for directions. Shows no sign of contemplation, very direct to get things done and then out and gone. She got away again before I could say anything.

I think maybe this one is a no-go also. Should I approach her; or is it a waste of time?

I have four more I met recently actually five but one is married, we can talk about that situation later or maybe not............

Lola, even if someone where to follow me around all day they would not know who these people are. However, if you or anyone feel I am being too open regarding relationships I will change my approach:

to quote Lola " Think about it, you two are dating, you tell everyone everything and she is worried/offended that everyone in your life, and not in your life, knows everything about her ."

The reason I am coming to the forum for help is because I don't talk to people in my life. I can't trust anyone close to me, or otherwise, with things running through my mind and heart. I live in a structured routine community where anything emotional or exciting is viewed as questionable and squelched.

This tall, lean, beautiful focused woman is part of that community. She is blended, not overtly noticed by anyone. I find that to be shameful that beauty goes unacknowledged. I will bet she has no idea how beautiful she is; and my attempts to appreciate her simply go unnoticed.

So it is your call. Am I doing the right thing or should I keep these things to myself? Of course if I meet someone and I really get together with her using all your advice, then you all will know. So I must be clever about these things.

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[ThomasR]

This will end the "Library Girl" post.​

I saw her today in the library for the third time. She had on a purple summer dress. It was a dress revealing bare shoulders loose along her bust line exposing ample cleavage [which was like a neon sign to me], very tight from her upper waist to her lower abdomen and then flowing sheerness to her knees. I sat silently at some distance behind her as she stood at the front desk waiting to get information.​

Her stance was relaxed, legs apart shifting her weight from side to side allowing her dress to flow as though being blown by the wind. I could see she was wearing only the dress. I immediately sat erect and stood in anticipation of making my introduction.

Walking toward her I approach from her right side and noticed her focus was on an advertisement, under the glass counter top, for a puppy. She was most intent and I could not bring myself to break her concentration. The librarian provided my opportunity by asking if she was interested in the puppy. After a brief exchange in conversation the topic was dropped and she resumed her focus.

I drew her attention by inquired if she was interested in having a pet. Her response was pretty restrained, no expression and monotone: "I have five cats." But she did not look away, so I continued: "getting a small puppy, it's behavior might become dominated by the cats." Her reply, "I have two cats that act like dogs." Again, a stone emotionless stare. The librarian interjected breaking a brief awkward silence.

She resumed her conversation with the librarian and I reacquainted myself with the seat I occupied behind her thinking she might be interested in continuing our conversation once her business at the front desk was complete. I sat admiring her form as she concluded her discourse, turned toward me and then departed, without a glance, exiting the library.

Taking a moment to gather my thoughts as to what actions I should pursue, I stood and followed behind her just in time to see her light up a cigarette. That stopped me dead mid-stride. I could, maybe, adjust to cats .......... maybe. But I can not adjust to cigarettes.

Now, I definitely have a physical attraction to her.

I can't imagine we have any common interests to base a friendship on [other than a physical interest].​

I can not get emotionally involved!​

I can not imagine any kind of partnerships we might explore;​

And, unless she is a prostitute, we have no basis for a contractual arrangement to establish a relationship.​

What do you feel about me pursue this further based on the physical attraction?

This is not a personal issue [I would have absolutelly no problem getting physical with this woman] as much as it is a social issue.​

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