FeerlessFreep : I don't normally respond to posts like this either, but you are walking a fine line there, i don't know the speeds for the above mentioned airplane, but how low of a speed reduction is safe? The other day i had to reduce speed quite big in my Lear following another, but slower (and newer...) Lear HE was on a long straight in final and started slowing down over the outerMarker, I was on a vectored baseleg with a turn to final within the marker. Approach asked me to slow down a few times and and finally gave me a speed below my Vfe-full which in this case (FYI Vfe-full=Vref+10) I had to tell him that I couldn't accept this since I also still had to manuever to final.
End was that the other jet could sidestep to the parrallel runway, which wasn't long enough for us, so it worked out good.
Low Speeds are fine, but it's all a combination of factors that demand the lowest safe speed for a given portion of the flight. Just like I know I can go below Vref since it gives me a 30% barrier over stallspeed, but if it is wise to do, mabe in some situations you can do it, but certainly not just at will.
sounded like the S-turns was the right thing, short of a missed approach, but yeah, mabe next time TELL the tower that you are doing it for separation. Although I probably wouldn't have told him either.