MarineGrunt, concur with what is being said here. The Corps has more helo's than fixed wing and they are all multi-crew. You can do the math and figure out where most guys are going. Be the #1 guy and hope for the best. As for your other question, most of my time in the fleet was spent either deployed, on det, or at school. Regardless, you are away from home, ALOT! The most family time I ever got was when I was attached to an infantry battalion on my Air Wing appreciation tour. The boat(carrier) is the place to go if you want to put warheads on foreheads. You are a Marine and you know the sacrifices it entails. Looking back on it all I wouldn't change a thing. Look into the blue side (air force guard or reserve) if you're interested. I know everything inside you says you'll never do it, but it is definitely worth a look. That being said, several of my friends are trying to do the guard thing and it is pretty slim pickings on the pointy nose side right now. PM me if you want more details.
PS- JB and ORGAN, good to see some Beaufort guys still around out there.