its a sucky position to be in for sure. as has been pointed out, not
everything can be planned for. one good divorce in which she keeps the house, the car, and the furniture...and guess who gets the bill for it
starchecker makes a good point. im unsure how the others work, but a Ch 13 wont hurt your score as badly as you might think...this is not to say it wont have a negative impact, but if you go Ch 13 and make your payments on time, and get it discharged within your plan limit, youre scores will be in the 600-650's by the time its discharged.
again, i dont know the inner workings, but nowadays, anyone with anything over a 600 can get an unsecured card, and then youre back in the game before you know it.
...good luck with your decision.
PS. dont bother with a credit counseling service, its
just as bad on your credit as a BK. in fact i can recall some applications that ask if youve ever been involved in a BK, or credit counseling...they look at it the same way.