I finally realized today my spouse is cheating on me. When we got married, I had so much hope. Even after he started being abusive to me, I tried hard to look away and hope tomorrow would be better day.
We signed a prenup that promised me he would always treat me well and take care of me. I put my faith in that contract. When I asked him why he wouldn't honor it, he laughed and said it wasn't worth the piece of paper it was written on.
What makes matter worse, he invited my sister to come live with him in our brand new house - the much bigger and newer house - while I stay behind in the old one. If he had chosen the pretty sister I could try to understand, after all he said his desire was to build a bigger better empire, but he didn't. He chose the ugly, stupid sister all because she promised to do dirty things for him no one with self-respect would do and that excites him.
I went to a lawyer and told him because of my circumstances, even though I don't trust him or like him, I have to stay married. I expressed hope outside counseling could at least help us come to terms and figure out a way toward the future. After all, I have invested too much time to start over somewhere else. I've seen what he did to his previous wife but I am scared if I stand up for myself, he will just get more abusive.
Maybe a counselor could hold him accountable. I was willing to give that a try but he refused and said he would thwart every effort toward counseling I made. He said if I persisted, he might through me out of the house all together. He threw 3 of our kids out on the street to make sure the others didn't turn against him too. I believe him when he says he will stop at nothing to keep me in my rightful place under his rule. My eyes have been opened. This isn't marriage, this is indentured servitude. In his eyes I am worthless. He is the King and I am there to serve him.
I asked the lawyer what I should do. He said "Ma'am, you came to the wrong office. You want the family attorney down the hall. I am a business lawyer, it would be inappropriate for me to connect my expertise to marriage. However, if I found out my wife was cheating on me, the first thing I would do is protect myself anyway I could. I would look at finances, promises and responsibilities. I would get as much security as I could and safeguard what I had before it went any farther. In business we know if you can't trust your partner, you get a contract. It's a shame you don't have that option. Perhaps you should realize that what you are seeking is a business relationship and not a marriage. If you decide that it is, then perhaps I can help you."
So that is where I am. I guess I have to decide just exactly what kind of relationship this is. Oh no! What am I going to do?
(disclaimer: This is a parody toward Kenn Ricci's creepy claims in his book Managament by (mis)Trust, equating the employer/employee relationship to marriage. I'm sure I'm not the only one who saw this as bizarre and disturbing but at least it helps to put it in perspective.)
We signed a prenup that promised me he would always treat me well and take care of me. I put my faith in that contract. When I asked him why he wouldn't honor it, he laughed and said it wasn't worth the piece of paper it was written on.
What makes matter worse, he invited my sister to come live with him in our brand new house - the much bigger and newer house - while I stay behind in the old one. If he had chosen the pretty sister I could try to understand, after all he said his desire was to build a bigger better empire, but he didn't. He chose the ugly, stupid sister all because she promised to do dirty things for him no one with self-respect would do and that excites him.
I went to a lawyer and told him because of my circumstances, even though I don't trust him or like him, I have to stay married. I expressed hope outside counseling could at least help us come to terms and figure out a way toward the future. After all, I have invested too much time to start over somewhere else. I've seen what he did to his previous wife but I am scared if I stand up for myself, he will just get more abusive.
Maybe a counselor could hold him accountable. I was willing to give that a try but he refused and said he would thwart every effort toward counseling I made. He said if I persisted, he might through me out of the house all together. He threw 3 of our kids out on the street to make sure the others didn't turn against him too. I believe him when he says he will stop at nothing to keep me in my rightful place under his rule. My eyes have been opened. This isn't marriage, this is indentured servitude. In his eyes I am worthless. He is the King and I am there to serve him.
I asked the lawyer what I should do. He said "Ma'am, you came to the wrong office. You want the family attorney down the hall. I am a business lawyer, it would be inappropriate for me to connect my expertise to marriage. However, if I found out my wife was cheating on me, the first thing I would do is protect myself anyway I could. I would look at finances, promises and responsibilities. I would get as much security as I could and safeguard what I had before it went any farther. In business we know if you can't trust your partner, you get a contract. It's a shame you don't have that option. Perhaps you should realize that what you are seeking is a business relationship and not a marriage. If you decide that it is, then perhaps I can help you."
So that is where I am. I guess I have to decide just exactly what kind of relationship this is. Oh no! What am I going to do?
(disclaimer: This is a parody toward Kenn Ricci's creepy claims in his book Managament by (mis)Trust, equating the employer/employee relationship to marriage. I'm sure I'm not the only one who saw this as bizarre and disturbing but at least it helps to put it in perspective.)
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