Marraige to a pilot...

[shaft]

Any of you guys/gals have a pilot/pilot marraige? What's it like? Or have any of you "had" a marraige to another pilot? I'm considering popping the question but I would like to hear some stories first just so I know what I am getting into.

 

[qwerty]

Someone please explain to me a reason to get married! Don't you know you can only hook up with one chick for the rest of your figgin life if you do something stupid like that?

I am out the door to a bachelor part south of the border, it feels more like a funeral. It is too late for him, I can only help those who want help.

 

[trainerjet]

Qwerty,

I'm begging YOU not to get married and/or have children. PLEASE!!! God forbid you spread THAT gene pool.

P.S. Those "chicks" you're hooking up with must REALLY be something. Better keep those genes in check, too.

 

[bobbysamd]

"I'll never get married . . . "

Apologies to Johnny Maestro.

Qwerty, you may feel that way now - we all do - but, you'll whistle a different tune when the right young lady comes your way.

 

[aviatrix]

????

Qwerty,
How old are you, if you dont mind my asking? You sound awfully young and bitter (not to mention naive).

 

[Snakum]

Aw, leave 'im alone ... QWERTY's my hero.

Minh "Three divorces and counting" Thong

 

[csmith]

Any of you guys/gals have a pilot/pilot marraige? What's it like? Or have any of you "had" a marraige to another pilot? I'm considering popping the question but I would like to hear some stories first just so I know what I am getting into.

I am married to a pilot. We are both in the professional aviation world. I am Delta, she is furloughed USAirways now flying corporate jets. Don't have one complaint. It's great being able to tell the little things that happened without having to explain what things mean. We bid our trips together, and are home together. The only question mark is child care. We have a nanny, and it is tough to see the changes in your little one which have occured while you were away--but that's aviation. We chose not to fly opposite schedules---so one could always be home with the baby.

I highly recommend the experience. It is great having someone in the business who understands the long hours, time away, and stresses which accompany aviation. I caution either sex to ensure that your spouse loves you more than aviation. That's what it is about, after all. You will, in theory, be together long after you've set the parking brake for the last time. Trust is huge. You can spend hours agonizing over who he or she is flying with, where he or she is on an overnight, etc. Come to a clear understanding before signing on the dotted line or you could face some major bumps ahead. This was a tough one for me as she is a complete knockout as well as being a great stick--two of the things which really turned me on about her. You just have to have that built in trust that they will always come home, and not bring anything with them.

I can keep going if you want. Feel free to PM with any specific questions.

C

 

[learflyer]

I know a couple. one flies with us at options, and her spouse flies at netjets. When we used to have the 6/4 at travel air, she said she only saw him about 4 nights a month!

 

[Orvilleflyer]

This thread parallels my life in a lot of ways. I am a single young Captain in his thirties, living in a year round party vacation town. Geez.... it can't get much better then that eh? I have been a Porn Star in this town! The temptations were just too much to resist at times. But after a while, the partying gets... well, I don't want to say it, but a little old? Maybe I just don't have the personality for it, but I think a lot of guys, including myself, want to continually go after the hottest women out there, not so much for their outer beauty but for our inner self esteem. Let's face it, walking around with a beautiful woman gets you lot's of positive attention. But what about being able to be seen with a not so hot woman? Is that important? More so I say, just in a much more advanced and different way. Yeah the variety of different women is fun.... But just like the partying and the beer drinking, that gets a 'lil old after a while too, because once you've been with a certain amount of women, there's no mystery anymore. At least not for me. I can look at a woman without wanting to imagine what's under her clothing. It's almost like admiring hot cars, you know each engine's a little different, but why open the hoods anymore when you've seen enough of them to satisfy your curiosity? Then- What about when you meet that one chick that stuns you- That makes you rethink your life. Qwerty, has that happened yet? It will. It happened to me; it's still happening, with the same woman. Yeah I still look at other women, and yeah, I sometimes wonder what it'd be like, but like all other things in life, I have learned that a happy, fulfilled and complete life span only comes with moderation, responsibility, character, good judgment, and patience. We are getting married, and I'm still in the party town. The funny thing is, when I get out now I don't find myself hanging around the bars as long as I did before. Oh, and by the way the foggles are off now. I see now that just about all of the women I would have gone for before were either bisexual, greedy, gold-digging, too stupid, too silly, too tattooed, too pierced, just had big boobs, or, and in what I would have considered to be a "grand prize" -they were all of those things. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of great women out there, but you usually just don't find them when you're looking so HARD. To folks out there like me, the real women (the one's that will make your heart skip) are out there, if you want that in your life. Yes, they are leaps and bounds ahead of the party scene, they will fulfill your life and make you grow old and happy too. You just have to be open to bigger and better things that seem to make themselves all too often elusive because of where you're at in your own maturity.

 

[AlphEcho]

I'm in that same place Orvilleflyer. I still get the pitied looks from pilot friends who don't know us that well, but I wouldn't go back to the party scene for any number of 32-D's. To those guys who don't know what we're talking about, you probably will.

 

[scotts]

Great posts, all.

I just have to chime in here. I am not married to another pilot. In fact, she could take flying or leave it. Nevertheless, I am very happy and love my wife dearly. So, why am I here?

I just want to bring up a couple of important points.

For everyone who is looking for Ms/Mr right or is already in a relationship, ALWAYS keep in mind that THERE IS RARELY SUCH A THING AS THE PERFECT MATE. Notice I said "rarely." One of the more common mistakes I see other people make is getting married to someone who they consider "perfect' or "wonderful" but when the "new car luster" wears off, they think they have made a mistake getting married. There are any number of reasons for this line of thinking. The point is, you could spend your entire life looking for the "perfect" mate, and never find her.

If you are married, and think you've made a mistake, take some time to really think about your relationship. Remember that COMPROMISE is one of the cornerstones to any relationship. Also remember that each of you should be thinking of what will make the other happy. You love each other, right? What will make that person who you love happy? Take time to listen. Put yourself in their shoes. Do little things to brighten up their day. Over the course of many years, little things add up. Make sure your mate knows every day that you are thinking of them.

We each have to make little (and sometimes big) compromises every day in our relationships. That human being you are married to has feelings. Respect that, always.

These observations come to you from someone who has learned the hard way. I am happy now because I have learned (I think!) these lessons. Don't get me wrong, I always have room for improvement!

I hope this helps someone out there who is struggling with an important decision about their relationship.

God bless all

 

[Wowjack]

Well, I've partied it up too! Always looking for all these superficial things, then I met her! She doesn't fly but wants to learn how to, she loves to travel. And the one thing thats makes her a keeper is that she a real great snowboarder! I found my perfect match.