I had some crap jobs, but life is good now. It was a struggle but my wife to be, knew fairly well that it would be a long hard road, ahead of time.I will average 10 days a month of work, this year maybe 11, and each year average about 80 overnights. About the time she is ready to choke me I leave on a trip for a day or two. It has a lot to do with your expectations well in advance. I know I have been blessed, but to me it is the greatest job on the planet. I fly part 91, fortune 500, been to 49 states, 33 countries and circled the globe. We adjust a birthday a few days one way or the other, the anniversary the same to try to compensate for schedule. It is a toss up, I am home so much, but it never fails that fly days and our schedule will conflict. Just make sure that your wife to be understands the tradeoffs. If she melts down over missing a birthday, find a 9 to 5 and enjoy the cubicle, but believe me, the view from my office beats the cubicle's view.