How to break it to employer?

[Timebuilder]

I'll bet the ego aspect figures prominently in this situation. I have been in instructional situations with older physicians and lawyers. They are not comfortable in situations where they are not the Jedi Master, and often don't take kindly to deferring to a Young Skywalker, even if you are over forty.

Maybe a trip to the happy hour isn't a bad idea, unless you already know he is a Mean Drunk. Relatives and friends often feel comfortable taking advantage of us (sorry to sound like Dr. Laura..) but he probably realizes that he couldn't get away with this with anyone else.

Let us know how this works out.

 

[low&slow]

I will certainly let you all know how this plays out. I am flying with him Monday. Everyone has given me great advice on how I should deal with this. I feel much more confident approaching him now. I wish I had only done this a long time ago... rather then putting up with it.

Also, you are all very correct. I have felt all along that he has been using me, and that it wasn't fair. I just didn't know how to go about changing it. He is a very successful executive-type, and I am over 30 years younger then him, so I'm sure there's a bit of an ego issue here (maybe why I haven't approached him before, intimidated by him?). Some of the flights he's proposed I haven't felt comfortable with (wx, route, etc) and have recommended alternative actions. He has responded to this by saying that they would cost him more money, that the plane isn't cheap to operate, and that I'm not the one paying the bills!!! He owns an expensive plane, but complains about how much it costs him to operate??? Sounds to me like he shouldn't be owning an airplane, and that he truly has done a cost analysis and determined that he can use me for free rather then pay someone $20 an hour to babysit him. I don't dig that, dude(<--- i told you i'm young). That just ain't right.

Thanks for the ammo to use, I was wondering if I was maybe being greedy or something. Obviously I deserve it, and it's time I stop putting up with it. The 414 time truly isn't worth it. Enough is enough.

-low&slow
somewhere in the U.S.A. (looking for work again)

 

[flint4xx]

If he is a friend then does he deserve at least an explanation? Maybe you'll save his life, too.

As far as pay, tell him you can't fly because you're working for minimum wage flipping burgers that day.

 

[208pilot]

sounds better

The later points sound a lot better. Particularly about just needing time to beet the bushes. I've never had a CRM class for a two man crew position but it sounds like there is where most of the friction between you two lies.
Good luck in getting a job. I know Commutair has been interviewing but there is alot of competition and their new hires have more time now than they use too. I recently asked my friends who work at Commutair about Colgan and they said Commutair was alot better.