The XLR, or as it used to be known, the "Cannon Plug" for it's original manufacturer, is primarily an audio and broadcasting microphone plug. It is used for mics and balanced lines, and has three terminals inside a large metal sleeve or shell, one of which is attached to the sleeve and the braided shield of the cable. The signal is carried on the two conductors that are connected to the two remaining pins.
There are other versions of the XLR that have more pins, but they are for very specialized applications. Perhaps this is one of those applications. I'd have to see it.
You can created your own adapter with two pieces of shileded, unbalanced mic cable, an XLR female connector, and the two familiar tip and ring plugs that we are familiar with in airplanes.
Finding which pins on your headset connector are used for which function will be a little more difficult, since this is not a standard use for the XLR. I'd start by turning in the little screw on the shell clockwise, and sliding the shell back to reveal the wires. Note the color of the wires and the pins they are attached to. Then you have to find a way to examine the wires in the headset and mic boom. That part will be more difficult. You might try and find a friend who is into electronics to help you do this. Carefully.
Good luck.