Advice please

[gear_guy]

I am in a pickle. I am married with 2 kids. I have a stable job. And I am young. I have a complete background in corporate aviation. The problem is my current job stinks and I have tried to stick it out. It is basically a dead end job(slow or no pay raises, no room for advancement, bad mx, poor mgmt., etc.) I really am getting tired of being angry and disappointed constantly. It has begun to bleed over into my personal life, even though I have tried to stop it. My wife is finally telling me to just find something that makes me happy. I have the opportunity to take a job working for a good friend of mine. I believe I would be happy working there. The pay is decent and good schedule. And like I said the chief pilot is a friend who I know I would like to work for. The problem is I am not sure about the area, and neither is my wife. I am tired of moving and my kids really don't want to move. I am afraid that if I take the job and move my family won't like the area and we'll have to move again. Is it better to leave something you hate for something that you might like? Or should I just stick it out for however long it takes to find a job I know I'll like (even though it will have a toll on my family life in the meantime)? It may sound like I am hard to please, but that is not true. I have never left a job because I was unhappy before, it has always been for advancement. I am easy going, hard working, and not hard to please. My previous employers would all agree with that. But some of the things I am dealing with are ridiculous. I really value your opinions and thank you for your thoughts.

 

[Mr. Irrelevant]

I'd say give it a try but then again I wouldn't be moving a family. You could tell everyone here the general area and would probably get some honest if not blunt responses as to what the pros/cons of that area is by people who have lived there.

Mr. I.

 

[semperfido]

without knowing many of the variables (which are important) I would say not to remain in a situation where you are miserable. If there is an opportunity for change, then maybe you should give it a shot. the major consideration is having your partner on board. once you decide, don't look back.

 

[scarface]

I agree with Semperdoggie. With bad maintenance, management etc. don't forget you could wind up with a violation and that would definitely reduce your horizons.

 

[AA717driver]

If the wife says go for it, do so. The kids will get over it.TC

 

[gear_guy]

One thing I just realized I did'nt mention is that my current job could change (for the better) in a couple of years. But I emphasize the word "could." And I still have to wonder what damge could be done in the meantime. I would state the specifics, but I am trying to post as anonymously as possible. Thanks for all the advice.

 

[Makesheepnervus]

Gear guy,

Take the job, your current job will never improve, to think otherwise is just wishfull thinking. If the new job doesn't work out, you may well have made new contacts that lead to one that does.

Your wife is telling you to do something that makes you happy, so clearly she will support your change.

 

[wannab0133]

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take the new job and dont move the family. get a "crash pad" at the location of the new job and have the fam visit regularly and see if they like it(and you like the new job).

 

[semperfido]

One thing I just realized I did'nt mention is that my current job could change (for the better) in a couple of years. But I emphasize the word "could." And I still have to wonder what damge could be done in the meantime. I would state the specifics, but I am trying to post as anonymously as possible. Thanks for all the advice.

remember that over time, good jobs can turn to crap AND crap jobs can turn to gold. there is just no figuring or sense to it, but it does happen. i have witnessed and been a part this phenom. live in the here and now, and you can't go wrong. you might say it is a crap shoot.

 

[Gulfstream 200]

A $hit job is a $hit job, you wont make it better - you will just frustrate yourself.

Put all your effort into finding a better gig. Where are you? hopefully not in bumfuk where there are very limited corp opportunities...if so, move now while you still have many many years left. You simply have to where the jobs are - thats rule #1 IMHO.

I wouldnt move my family for an aviation job unless it was VERY good - read stable, career possibility..especially if they are burned out on moving for flying jobs..

Meanwhile find outlets, ejoy your family, keep work at work as much as possible...a $hit flying job certainly is not worth losing a family over.

Personally Id kick my wife back to work before letting bull$hit aviation destroy my family...its just not worth it.

Maybe get a little more specific....what do you fly? are you a GV pilot or a King Air pilot....where are you? NY metro or Iowa....you would be surprised at the PM's you will get about possibilities in your area..

 

[gear_guy]

Thank you to all. I guess it is rather obvious to everyone else. I have never seen so many people in agreement on here. It just goes to show you how blinded you can get over time. This is exactly what I needed. Thank you for your professionalism. I hope I can be as insightful for someone else in need.

 

[semperfido]

-----but it is still your decision to make-----